Joy, Joy, Joy!

by Mary Jo

As my Christmas contribution to our Word Wenches Christmastide postings, I want to talk about what gives us pleasure.  I've read two articles recently that said we find the greatest and most lasting pleasure in experiences, not things.  Not that things aren't nice, but if you're debating taking a trip or buying a new dinette Cat 243 Doverset and telling yourself that the trip will be over in days but you'll have the dinette set for years–remember that being "practical" isn't always the best choice.  Twenty years from now, the dinette set might be history, but a wonderful experience will provide lasting memories for you to cherish and share and smile over.  

And it doesn't have to be a big experience.  Over the weekend, my sister and I went shopping together, even though neither of us much likes shopping.  We didn't buy much, but we had a wonderful time laughing together at places like the well stocked kitchen gadgets department that included such delights as cherry chompers and a six inch dragon whose jaws could be used for cracking nuts.  

Experiences are precious.  What are some of your favorites?  Are there some bright shiny new experiences that you're anticipating for the future?  May they be joyous!

Mary Jo, who finds joy in her cats.  In the picture below, The Panda Puss is obvious, but if you look closely in the front, you can see the head and ears of Smokey MacGregor.  This may be his first Christmas tree, because he takes great joy in playing with the ornaments!  

Panda, Smokey, and the tree


What’s Your Word for 2014?

Cat 243 Doverby Mary Jo

With 2013 almost over and 2014 about to dance in, I'd like to suggest an exercise I've blogged about before. That is, to choose a word that encompasses our hopes and desires for the year ahead.  

I chose "Focus" for this past year–and was so busy running in different directions that I didn't get around to focusing better. <G>  Maybe I should try this again for 2014!  

But maybe I should try a broader goal.  "Balance," perhaps.  Yes, I like the idea of Balance–finding the optimum point between working and enjoying life.

Pond liliesPatience


What other words would you suggest as a theme for the upcoming year?

Some of you will have done this exercise for 2013.  How did you do with your word for 2013?  Will you continue with it, or would you rather change to a different word?

Mountain mistsEven if you don't want to choose a particular word, it's nice to take the time to think about where we are…

And where we'd like to be.

Have a healthy, prosperous 2014–

Mary Jo


What’s your word?

Cat 243 Doverby Mary Jo

Today is the last of our Word Wenches short Christmastide posts.  The holidays are over, and even though mine was great fun, I’m ready to descend into the silent, productive peace of January.

But since we’re beginning a new year, I decided to suggest a mental exercise that I blogged about a couple of years ago.  I was reminded of it on a discussion loop: Choosing a theme word for the upcoming year.  This isn’t a New Year’s resolution, a category that is famously ignored because trying to change deep seated habits generally takes more than a calendar change.

Instead, it’s a chance to think about our lives, where we are, where we’d like to be.  Just slowing down and thinking about such issues is in itself worthwhile in our busyBlossoms lives. 

A good word might be Appreciate.  It’s easy to take for granted the good things around us, so consciously appreciating a beautiful day, a lunch with a friend, cherry blossoms in spring, will enrich our selves.

In fact, Self is a good word, especially those who spend too much time doing for Solitary Womanothers.  I know busy wives and mothers who fantasize checking into a hotel and not having to talk to anyone but room service for a week.  Maybe this should be a year of putting your needs on the top of the list rather than the bottom.

Or maybe Abundant.  Such a rich, luxurious concept!  Abundant happiness, abundant energy, abundant relationships. 

Perhaps you'd like Mindfulness: taking the the time to be here now, in the moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.Mindfulness

I’m thinking of choosing Focus.  Being infinitely distractible, I’m always amazed that I managed to finish one book, much less dozens.  I’d like better focus so I can write more efficiently and have more time for my personal life and maybe some writing play projects.  Better focus =  more productivity and more fun, yes! 

Well, it’s worth a try.  <G>  I’ll put Focus! on a few Post-It notes around the house to remind myself, and we’ll see what happens.  Maybe I'd be better off with Patience. <G>

Joy 1What about you?  What word would you choose as a theme for the coming year? 

Joy is never a bad place to start considering….

Mary Jo

PS: Okay, I didn't realize until I'd prepared this post that Jo had already suggested the "choose a word" idea.  (You'll not be surprised to hear that she and I are on that same discussion loop that was playing the game.

But there are plenty of good words to choose–and it's too late for me to come up with another idea. <G>