On “Stuff”

Anne here, and with only a few days to go until I leave my old house and move into the new one, I'm panicking slightly. So I hope you'll forgive me if this post is short, and not exactly book-related.

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I was talking to a friend about how shocked I've been, realizing the amount of "stuff" I've accumulated over the years. Okay, I have too many books (and yes, despite those memes circulating that claim there is no such thing, there is such a thing as too many books!  But there's also a lot of "stuff".

The thing is, I'm not particularly materialistic — I'm not much of a shopper, I'm not terribly fashionable and I have no interest in owning the latest of anything. And yet still I have too much stuff.

My friend is the same. She's only been in her house a couple of years but is feeling as though she already has too much stuff. She's also not much for buying the latest "must-haves" but what I realized is, we both love finding bargains or beautiful things at charity shops, second-hand shops and fetes or auctions. 

So my theory is that at heart, at a bone-deep level, we're still hunter-gatherers. That's why in our society, most shopping is not so much a necessity, but a pastime, a hobby, a cultural social activity.

Kevin-andre-nHCssXpg_Po-unsplash (1)And it explains (I think) why for some of us, buying something from a charity shop, or a local fete or church bazaar is often more satisfying than going to a major store and buying something brand new. It's all about the hunt, you see — the lucky find, the elusive prize, the unexpected treasure. 

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Another friend, who also battles with "stuff" has discovered a 30% system. I'm still a bit vague as to how it works, but by following it, she has cut down her large wardrobe of clothing to 30% of its previous size. That's impressive.

A friend who has been helping me pack my many books into boxes told me the other day that she's found helping me with my "stuff" very helpful — she goes home and immediately casts around for stuff she can get rid of. It's not exactly flattering, being an object lesson, but I have to confess, it's having much the same effect on me. The more I get rid of, the easier it becomes.

Part of my problem is that I hate waste, so I can't just toss perfectly good "stuff" into the bin. I need to find it a good home. And keeping old family things, and things that evoke memories, and presents and . . . But it's weighing me down, so that's an attitude I'm working on… 

Now the moving deadline is almost upon me, and I don't have time to sort — just to pack, but the plan is to continue the sorting, decluttering and tossing from the new house. (I have this vision of me sitting in the house in ten years time, still not game to go into that room with the closed door behind with lurks a hundred boxes of"stuff" waiting to be sorted. <g>

So that's it, folks — not a particularly edifying blog, but next time you hear from me I'll be in my nice new home and hopefully in a calmer state of being. And with less "stuff"

Are you a hunter/gatherer at heart or not? Are you a shopper? Are you good at getting rid of "stuff"?

190 thoughts on “On “Stuff””

  1. I know exactly how you feel, Anne. I helped clear out my in-laws’ house last year. It was borne in upon me that we definitely have a lot of stuff. I came home with carload of their stuff and had a clear out! I do this periodically anyway, but this one was a doozy. Then DH came home with another carload of stuff and I had another clear out. I have absolutely no room to criticise him for bringing yet more stuff into our very cluttered house because a lot came back with me 17 years ago after my mother’s house was sold. I still enjoy opp shops and yeah, I have far too many books, but I’m a lot more strict with myself about bringing stuff home. Not so much the books though. They continue to mount up, although I am a lot better at learning when I need to have a cull there too.

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  2. I know exactly how you feel, Anne. I helped clear out my in-laws’ house last year. It was borne in upon me that we definitely have a lot of stuff. I came home with carload of their stuff and had a clear out! I do this periodically anyway, but this one was a doozy. Then DH came home with another carload of stuff and I had another clear out. I have absolutely no room to criticise him for bringing yet more stuff into our very cluttered house because a lot came back with me 17 years ago after my mother’s house was sold. I still enjoy opp shops and yeah, I have far too many books, but I’m a lot more strict with myself about bringing stuff home. Not so much the books though. They continue to mount up, although I am a lot better at learning when I need to have a cull there too.

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  3. I know exactly how you feel, Anne. I helped clear out my in-laws’ house last year. It was borne in upon me that we definitely have a lot of stuff. I came home with carload of their stuff and had a clear out! I do this periodically anyway, but this one was a doozy. Then DH came home with another carload of stuff and I had another clear out. I have absolutely no room to criticise him for bringing yet more stuff into our very cluttered house because a lot came back with me 17 years ago after my mother’s house was sold. I still enjoy opp shops and yeah, I have far too many books, but I’m a lot more strict with myself about bringing stuff home. Not so much the books though. They continue to mount up, although I am a lot better at learning when I need to have a cull there too.

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  4. I know exactly how you feel, Anne. I helped clear out my in-laws’ house last year. It was borne in upon me that we definitely have a lot of stuff. I came home with carload of their stuff and had a clear out! I do this periodically anyway, but this one was a doozy. Then DH came home with another carload of stuff and I had another clear out. I have absolutely no room to criticise him for bringing yet more stuff into our very cluttered house because a lot came back with me 17 years ago after my mother’s house was sold. I still enjoy opp shops and yeah, I have far too many books, but I’m a lot more strict with myself about bringing stuff home. Not so much the books though. They continue to mount up, although I am a lot better at learning when I need to have a cull there too.

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  5. I know exactly how you feel, Anne. I helped clear out my in-laws’ house last year. It was borne in upon me that we definitely have a lot of stuff. I came home with carload of their stuff and had a clear out! I do this periodically anyway, but this one was a doozy. Then DH came home with another carload of stuff and I had another clear out. I have absolutely no room to criticise him for bringing yet more stuff into our very cluttered house because a lot came back with me 17 years ago after my mother’s house was sold. I still enjoy opp shops and yeah, I have far too many books, but I’m a lot more strict with myself about bringing stuff home. Not so much the books though. They continue to mount up, although I am a lot better at learning when I need to have a cull there too.

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  6. I identify with so much of what you say here. I have been decluttering ever since I retired 12 years ago (smile) and the fact that it is still a problem says a lot about me – doesn’t it? I’m not really a hoarder but I tend to hold onto things as long as I have a place to store them. (I might need them someday) What is amazing is that I have so many places to store them.
    Good luck with your moving Anne. It will all be worth it once you are settled in your new place.

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  7. I identify with so much of what you say here. I have been decluttering ever since I retired 12 years ago (smile) and the fact that it is still a problem says a lot about me – doesn’t it? I’m not really a hoarder but I tend to hold onto things as long as I have a place to store them. (I might need them someday) What is amazing is that I have so many places to store them.
    Good luck with your moving Anne. It will all be worth it once you are settled in your new place.

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  8. I identify with so much of what you say here. I have been decluttering ever since I retired 12 years ago (smile) and the fact that it is still a problem says a lot about me – doesn’t it? I’m not really a hoarder but I tend to hold onto things as long as I have a place to store them. (I might need them someday) What is amazing is that I have so many places to store them.
    Good luck with your moving Anne. It will all be worth it once you are settled in your new place.

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  9. I identify with so much of what you say here. I have been decluttering ever since I retired 12 years ago (smile) and the fact that it is still a problem says a lot about me – doesn’t it? I’m not really a hoarder but I tend to hold onto things as long as I have a place to store them. (I might need them someday) What is amazing is that I have so many places to store them.
    Good luck with your moving Anne. It will all be worth it once you are settled in your new place.

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  10. I identify with so much of what you say here. I have been decluttering ever since I retired 12 years ago (smile) and the fact that it is still a problem says a lot about me – doesn’t it? I’m not really a hoarder but I tend to hold onto things as long as I have a place to store them. (I might need them someday) What is amazing is that I have so many places to store them.
    Good luck with your moving Anne. It will all be worth it once you are settled in your new place.

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  11. I, unfortunately, am a hunter/gatherer. I decluttered when we moved here before the move, decluttered more as I put stuff away moving in here and though we’ve only been here 7 years, I have an overwhelming urge to declutter again because I feel like I’m buried under more ‘stuff’ already. So much of what I didn’t get rid of though are memories and family things that are hard for me to part with because my childhood family is all gone now, those ‘things’ are all I have left sometimes to remind me. GAH! Too hard sometimes, you know?
    Good luck on the move and I wish you all sorts of new memories with the new home and hope Milly settles in well.

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  12. I, unfortunately, am a hunter/gatherer. I decluttered when we moved here before the move, decluttered more as I put stuff away moving in here and though we’ve only been here 7 years, I have an overwhelming urge to declutter again because I feel like I’m buried under more ‘stuff’ already. So much of what I didn’t get rid of though are memories and family things that are hard for me to part with because my childhood family is all gone now, those ‘things’ are all I have left sometimes to remind me. GAH! Too hard sometimes, you know?
    Good luck on the move and I wish you all sorts of new memories with the new home and hope Milly settles in well.

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  13. I, unfortunately, am a hunter/gatherer. I decluttered when we moved here before the move, decluttered more as I put stuff away moving in here and though we’ve only been here 7 years, I have an overwhelming urge to declutter again because I feel like I’m buried under more ‘stuff’ already. So much of what I didn’t get rid of though are memories and family things that are hard for me to part with because my childhood family is all gone now, those ‘things’ are all I have left sometimes to remind me. GAH! Too hard sometimes, you know?
    Good luck on the move and I wish you all sorts of new memories with the new home and hope Milly settles in well.

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  14. I, unfortunately, am a hunter/gatherer. I decluttered when we moved here before the move, decluttered more as I put stuff away moving in here and though we’ve only been here 7 years, I have an overwhelming urge to declutter again because I feel like I’m buried under more ‘stuff’ already. So much of what I didn’t get rid of though are memories and family things that are hard for me to part with because my childhood family is all gone now, those ‘things’ are all I have left sometimes to remind me. GAH! Too hard sometimes, you know?
    Good luck on the move and I wish you all sorts of new memories with the new home and hope Milly settles in well.

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  15. I, unfortunately, am a hunter/gatherer. I decluttered when we moved here before the move, decluttered more as I put stuff away moving in here and though we’ve only been here 7 years, I have an overwhelming urge to declutter again because I feel like I’m buried under more ‘stuff’ already. So much of what I didn’t get rid of though are memories and family things that are hard for me to part with because my childhood family is all gone now, those ‘things’ are all I have left sometimes to remind me. GAH! Too hard sometimes, you know?
    Good luck on the move and I wish you all sorts of new memories with the new home and hope Milly settles in well.

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  16. I don’t often use the word love, but I love going to thrift stores and looking around (and sometimes buying something). So, yes, I can identify with being a hunter-gatherer even while knowing I should declutter! There is actually a reddit sub board I’ve discovered recently, and it’s fun to see what others have acquired or passed by. https://old.reddit.com/r/ThriftStoreHauls/
    Best wishes with your move, Anne!

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  17. I don’t often use the word love, but I love going to thrift stores and looking around (and sometimes buying something). So, yes, I can identify with being a hunter-gatherer even while knowing I should declutter! There is actually a reddit sub board I’ve discovered recently, and it’s fun to see what others have acquired or passed by. https://old.reddit.com/r/ThriftStoreHauls/
    Best wishes with your move, Anne!

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  18. I don’t often use the word love, but I love going to thrift stores and looking around (and sometimes buying something). So, yes, I can identify with being a hunter-gatherer even while knowing I should declutter! There is actually a reddit sub board I’ve discovered recently, and it’s fun to see what others have acquired or passed by. https://old.reddit.com/r/ThriftStoreHauls/
    Best wishes with your move, Anne!

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  19. I don’t often use the word love, but I love going to thrift stores and looking around (and sometimes buying something). So, yes, I can identify with being a hunter-gatherer even while knowing I should declutter! There is actually a reddit sub board I’ve discovered recently, and it’s fun to see what others have acquired or passed by. https://old.reddit.com/r/ThriftStoreHauls/
    Best wishes with your move, Anne!

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  20. I don’t often use the word love, but I love going to thrift stores and looking around (and sometimes buying something). So, yes, I can identify with being a hunter-gatherer even while knowing I should declutter! There is actually a reddit sub board I’ve discovered recently, and it’s fun to see what others have acquired or passed by. https://old.reddit.com/r/ThriftStoreHauls/
    Best wishes with your move, Anne!

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  21. I relate to all that has been mentioned here. I had too much stuff before my aunt and mother died. For the last 10 years I have been getting rid of stuff. I, too, hate to just throw good stuff out so I have been giving it away to people who need/want it and selling it on Facebook Marketplace, Etsy, Ebay, Craig’s List and anywhere else I can.
    I think the Chinese had the right idea: collect until you’re 35 then start divesting. This is good Feng Shui as well. Unfortunately, Americans are not good at moderation. We’ve turned into grand consumers and generally we are not good at decluttering.
    It is a process, though. I just know I don’t want to leave our daughter with all this stuff others have left me so I continue to divest.
    Bless you all for moving forward with the process and your words of encouragement!

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  22. I relate to all that has been mentioned here. I had too much stuff before my aunt and mother died. For the last 10 years I have been getting rid of stuff. I, too, hate to just throw good stuff out so I have been giving it away to people who need/want it and selling it on Facebook Marketplace, Etsy, Ebay, Craig’s List and anywhere else I can.
    I think the Chinese had the right idea: collect until you’re 35 then start divesting. This is good Feng Shui as well. Unfortunately, Americans are not good at moderation. We’ve turned into grand consumers and generally we are not good at decluttering.
    It is a process, though. I just know I don’t want to leave our daughter with all this stuff others have left me so I continue to divest.
    Bless you all for moving forward with the process and your words of encouragement!

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  23. I relate to all that has been mentioned here. I had too much stuff before my aunt and mother died. For the last 10 years I have been getting rid of stuff. I, too, hate to just throw good stuff out so I have been giving it away to people who need/want it and selling it on Facebook Marketplace, Etsy, Ebay, Craig’s List and anywhere else I can.
    I think the Chinese had the right idea: collect until you’re 35 then start divesting. This is good Feng Shui as well. Unfortunately, Americans are not good at moderation. We’ve turned into grand consumers and generally we are not good at decluttering.
    It is a process, though. I just know I don’t want to leave our daughter with all this stuff others have left me so I continue to divest.
    Bless you all for moving forward with the process and your words of encouragement!

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  24. I relate to all that has been mentioned here. I had too much stuff before my aunt and mother died. For the last 10 years I have been getting rid of stuff. I, too, hate to just throw good stuff out so I have been giving it away to people who need/want it and selling it on Facebook Marketplace, Etsy, Ebay, Craig’s List and anywhere else I can.
    I think the Chinese had the right idea: collect until you’re 35 then start divesting. This is good Feng Shui as well. Unfortunately, Americans are not good at moderation. We’ve turned into grand consumers and generally we are not good at decluttering.
    It is a process, though. I just know I don’t want to leave our daughter with all this stuff others have left me so I continue to divest.
    Bless you all for moving forward with the process and your words of encouragement!

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  25. I relate to all that has been mentioned here. I had too much stuff before my aunt and mother died. For the last 10 years I have been getting rid of stuff. I, too, hate to just throw good stuff out so I have been giving it away to people who need/want it and selling it on Facebook Marketplace, Etsy, Ebay, Craig’s List and anywhere else I can.
    I think the Chinese had the right idea: collect until you’re 35 then start divesting. This is good Feng Shui as well. Unfortunately, Americans are not good at moderation. We’ve turned into grand consumers and generally we are not good at decluttering.
    It is a process, though. I just know I don’t want to leave our daughter with all this stuff others have left me so I continue to divest.
    Bless you all for moving forward with the process and your words of encouragement!

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  26. Good luck Anne! That’s all I can say. I think we’ve kind of discussed this before. My Husband & I have moved a lot in our life and declutter all the time. Yeah, it happens again – clutter. LOL.

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  27. Good luck Anne! That’s all I can say. I think we’ve kind of discussed this before. My Husband & I have moved a lot in our life and declutter all the time. Yeah, it happens again – clutter. LOL.

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  28. Good luck Anne! That’s all I can say. I think we’ve kind of discussed this before. My Husband & I have moved a lot in our life and declutter all the time. Yeah, it happens again – clutter. LOL.

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  29. Good luck Anne! That’s all I can say. I think we’ve kind of discussed this before. My Husband & I have moved a lot in our life and declutter all the time. Yeah, it happens again – clutter. LOL.

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  30. Good luck Anne! That’s all I can say. I think we’ve kind of discussed this before. My Husband & I have moved a lot in our life and declutter all the time. Yeah, it happens again – clutter. LOL.

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  31. Thanks, Elizabeth — yes, a lot of my stuff was passed on from my parents and I haven’t the heart to get rid of it.
    And books are less of a problem for me now since I’ve turned to reading e-books. My e-reader is probably cluttered too, but it’s easier to carry.

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  32. Thanks, Elizabeth — yes, a lot of my stuff was passed on from my parents and I haven’t the heart to get rid of it.
    And books are less of a problem for me now since I’ve turned to reading e-books. My e-reader is probably cluttered too, but it’s easier to carry.

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  33. Thanks, Elizabeth — yes, a lot of my stuff was passed on from my parents and I haven’t the heart to get rid of it.
    And books are less of a problem for me now since I’ve turned to reading e-books. My e-reader is probably cluttered too, but it’s easier to carry.

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  34. Thanks, Elizabeth — yes, a lot of my stuff was passed on from my parents and I haven’t the heart to get rid of it.
    And books are less of a problem for me now since I’ve turned to reading e-books. My e-reader is probably cluttered too, but it’s easier to carry.

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  35. Thanks, Elizabeth — yes, a lot of my stuff was passed on from my parents and I haven’t the heart to get rid of it.
    And books are less of a problem for me now since I’ve turned to reading e-books. My e-reader is probably cluttered too, but it’s easier to carry.

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  36. Mary, that’s it exactly — “as long as I have a place to store them.” It’s having emptied out all the cupboards and shelves etc that has made me really aware of how much I have accumulated. While it was all neatly tucked away it didn’t bother me as much (or I didn’t realize it as much) and my on-going decluttering attempts were small and manageable, but now that everything is out and visible and needing to be packed into boxes, it’s a bit overwhelming.
    Thanks for the good wishes.

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  37. Mary, that’s it exactly — “as long as I have a place to store them.” It’s having emptied out all the cupboards and shelves etc that has made me really aware of how much I have accumulated. While it was all neatly tucked away it didn’t bother me as much (or I didn’t realize it as much) and my on-going decluttering attempts were small and manageable, but now that everything is out and visible and needing to be packed into boxes, it’s a bit overwhelming.
    Thanks for the good wishes.

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  38. Mary, that’s it exactly — “as long as I have a place to store them.” It’s having emptied out all the cupboards and shelves etc that has made me really aware of how much I have accumulated. While it was all neatly tucked away it didn’t bother me as much (or I didn’t realize it as much) and my on-going decluttering attempts were small and manageable, but now that everything is out and visible and needing to be packed into boxes, it’s a bit overwhelming.
    Thanks for the good wishes.

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  39. Mary, that’s it exactly — “as long as I have a place to store them.” It’s having emptied out all the cupboards and shelves etc that has made me really aware of how much I have accumulated. While it was all neatly tucked away it didn’t bother me as much (or I didn’t realize it as much) and my on-going decluttering attempts were small and manageable, but now that everything is out and visible and needing to be packed into boxes, it’s a bit overwhelming.
    Thanks for the good wishes.

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  40. Mary, that’s it exactly — “as long as I have a place to store them.” It’s having emptied out all the cupboards and shelves etc that has made me really aware of how much I have accumulated. While it was all neatly tucked away it didn’t bother me as much (or I didn’t realize it as much) and my on-going decluttering attempts were small and manageable, but now that everything is out and visible and needing to be packed into boxes, it’s a bit overwhelming.
    Thanks for the good wishes.

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  41. Thanks for the good wishes, Theo. I’m going to embark on a big decluttering process again as I unpack the boxes and see if there is a place for everything.
    I also have an on-line writing course that starts a few days after I’ve moved, and I have one clear day in between the final cleaning after moving and the course — and guess what? On that day my pre-order of the next JD Kirk book should arrive on my kindle. The on-line course is all uploaded already, so there’s not prep. to do, so I’ll be taking a little break from packing/unpacking and diving into Scottish crime.

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  42. Thanks for the good wishes, Theo. I’m going to embark on a big decluttering process again as I unpack the boxes and see if there is a place for everything.
    I also have an on-line writing course that starts a few days after I’ve moved, and I have one clear day in between the final cleaning after moving and the course — and guess what? On that day my pre-order of the next JD Kirk book should arrive on my kindle. The on-line course is all uploaded already, so there’s not prep. to do, so I’ll be taking a little break from packing/unpacking and diving into Scottish crime.

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  43. Thanks for the good wishes, Theo. I’m going to embark on a big decluttering process again as I unpack the boxes and see if there is a place for everything.
    I also have an on-line writing course that starts a few days after I’ve moved, and I have one clear day in between the final cleaning after moving and the course — and guess what? On that day my pre-order of the next JD Kirk book should arrive on my kindle. The on-line course is all uploaded already, so there’s not prep. to do, so I’ll be taking a little break from packing/unpacking and diving into Scottish crime.

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  44. Thanks for the good wishes, Theo. I’m going to embark on a big decluttering process again as I unpack the boxes and see if there is a place for everything.
    I also have an on-line writing course that starts a few days after I’ve moved, and I have one clear day in between the final cleaning after moving and the course — and guess what? On that day my pre-order of the next JD Kirk book should arrive on my kindle. The on-line course is all uploaded already, so there’s not prep. to do, so I’ll be taking a little break from packing/unpacking and diving into Scottish crime.

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  45. Thanks for the good wishes, Theo. I’m going to embark on a big decluttering process again as I unpack the boxes and see if there is a place for everything.
    I also have an on-line writing course that starts a few days after I’ve moved, and I have one clear day in between the final cleaning after moving and the course — and guess what? On that day my pre-order of the next JD Kirk book should arrive on my kindle. The on-line course is all uploaded already, so there’s not prep. to do, so I’ll be taking a little break from packing/unpacking and diving into Scottish crime.

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  46. Oh, Kareni, I know the feeling. The other day I took a load of stuff to Savers (a charity store) and the collection/drop-off site was next door to the actual shop. I had to actively resist the urge to go into the shop and browse!
    Thanks for that link. And for the good wishes.

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  47. Oh, Kareni, I know the feeling. The other day I took a load of stuff to Savers (a charity store) and the collection/drop-off site was next door to the actual shop. I had to actively resist the urge to go into the shop and browse!
    Thanks for that link. And for the good wishes.

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  48. Oh, Kareni, I know the feeling. The other day I took a load of stuff to Savers (a charity store) and the collection/drop-off site was next door to the actual shop. I had to actively resist the urge to go into the shop and browse!
    Thanks for that link. And for the good wishes.

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  49. Oh, Kareni, I know the feeling. The other day I took a load of stuff to Savers (a charity store) and the collection/drop-off site was next door to the actual shop. I had to actively resist the urge to go into the shop and browse!
    Thanks for that link. And for the good wishes.

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  50. Oh, Kareni, I know the feeling. The other day I took a load of stuff to Savers (a charity store) and the collection/drop-off site was next door to the actual shop. I had to actively resist the urge to go into the shop and browse!
    Thanks for that link. And for the good wishes.

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  51. Thanks, Suzanne. I remember my mother saying she didn’t want us daughters to have to deal with all her “stuff” after she died — but we did. I get my bad habits honestly.
    I hate selling stuff though — I’d rather give it away.
    I love that Chinese saying. It’s a bit late for me, but I do like some of the principles of Feng Shui. And being in a new house will be a very good incentive to divest myself of so much unnecessary stuff. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  52. Thanks, Suzanne. I remember my mother saying she didn’t want us daughters to have to deal with all her “stuff” after she died — but we did. I get my bad habits honestly.
    I hate selling stuff though — I’d rather give it away.
    I love that Chinese saying. It’s a bit late for me, but I do like some of the principles of Feng Shui. And being in a new house will be a very good incentive to divest myself of so much unnecessary stuff. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  53. Thanks, Suzanne. I remember my mother saying she didn’t want us daughters to have to deal with all her “stuff” after she died — but we did. I get my bad habits honestly.
    I hate selling stuff though — I’d rather give it away.
    I love that Chinese saying. It’s a bit late for me, but I do like some of the principles of Feng Shui. And being in a new house will be a very good incentive to divest myself of so much unnecessary stuff. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  54. Thanks, Suzanne. I remember my mother saying she didn’t want us daughters to have to deal with all her “stuff” after she died — but we did. I get my bad habits honestly.
    I hate selling stuff though — I’d rather give it away.
    I love that Chinese saying. It’s a bit late for me, but I do like some of the principles of Feng Shui. And being in a new house will be a very good incentive to divest myself of so much unnecessary stuff. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  55. Thanks, Suzanne. I remember my mother saying she didn’t want us daughters to have to deal with all her “stuff” after she died — but we did. I get my bad habits honestly.
    I hate selling stuff though — I’d rather give it away.
    I love that Chinese saying. It’s a bit late for me, but I do like some of the principles of Feng Shui. And being in a new house will be a very good incentive to divest myself of so much unnecessary stuff. Thanks for the encouragement.

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  56. You’re going to be cutting it close! Logan’s only days away! Grimm’s over Memorial Day weekend here so I’ll be doing that since we won’t be going anywhere this year. Hubs just went back to work today after 6 weeks off for a total knee replacement. And did you pre-order Hoon?? The new one’s due July 12th. You need to be done with your after-move decluttering by then 😉

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  57. You’re going to be cutting it close! Logan’s only days away! Grimm’s over Memorial Day weekend here so I’ll be doing that since we won’t be going anywhere this year. Hubs just went back to work today after 6 weeks off for a total knee replacement. And did you pre-order Hoon?? The new one’s due July 12th. You need to be done with your after-move decluttering by then 😉

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  58. You’re going to be cutting it close! Logan’s only days away! Grimm’s over Memorial Day weekend here so I’ll be doing that since we won’t be going anywhere this year. Hubs just went back to work today after 6 weeks off for a total knee replacement. And did you pre-order Hoon?? The new one’s due July 12th. You need to be done with your after-move decluttering by then 😉

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  59. You’re going to be cutting it close! Logan’s only days away! Grimm’s over Memorial Day weekend here so I’ll be doing that since we won’t be going anywhere this year. Hubs just went back to work today after 6 weeks off for a total knee replacement. And did you pre-order Hoon?? The new one’s due July 12th. You need to be done with your after-move decluttering by then 😉

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  60. You’re going to be cutting it close! Logan’s only days away! Grimm’s over Memorial Day weekend here so I’ll be doing that since we won’t be going anywhere this year. Hubs just went back to work today after 6 weeks off for a total knee replacement. And did you pre-order Hoon?? The new one’s due July 12th. You need to be done with your after-move decluttering by then 😉

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  61. Q: When do we feel most alive?
    A: When we’re making decisions and accomplishing something.
    Q: What’s the easiest, most pleasurable way to make decisions and feel like we’ve accomplished something?
    A: Shopping!
    Whether it’s retail therapy, thrift thrills, or just acquiring stuff free (!) from a relative’s/friend’s stash, we’ve (a) done something and (b) have something to show for it. Until we have too many somethings to show, amIright?

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  62. Q: When do we feel most alive?
    A: When we’re making decisions and accomplishing something.
    Q: What’s the easiest, most pleasurable way to make decisions and feel like we’ve accomplished something?
    A: Shopping!
    Whether it’s retail therapy, thrift thrills, or just acquiring stuff free (!) from a relative’s/friend’s stash, we’ve (a) done something and (b) have something to show for it. Until we have too many somethings to show, amIright?

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  63. Q: When do we feel most alive?
    A: When we’re making decisions and accomplishing something.
    Q: What’s the easiest, most pleasurable way to make decisions and feel like we’ve accomplished something?
    A: Shopping!
    Whether it’s retail therapy, thrift thrills, or just acquiring stuff free (!) from a relative’s/friend’s stash, we’ve (a) done something and (b) have something to show for it. Until we have too many somethings to show, amIright?

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  64. Q: When do we feel most alive?
    A: When we’re making decisions and accomplishing something.
    Q: What’s the easiest, most pleasurable way to make decisions and feel like we’ve accomplished something?
    A: Shopping!
    Whether it’s retail therapy, thrift thrills, or just acquiring stuff free (!) from a relative’s/friend’s stash, we’ve (a) done something and (b) have something to show for it. Until we have too many somethings to show, amIright?

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  65. Q: When do we feel most alive?
    A: When we’re making decisions and accomplishing something.
    Q: What’s the easiest, most pleasurable way to make decisions and feel like we’ve accomplished something?
    A: Shopping!
    Whether it’s retail therapy, thrift thrills, or just acquiring stuff free (!) from a relative’s/friend’s stash, we’ve (a) done something and (b) have something to show for it. Until we have too many somethings to show, amIright?

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  66. Clutter definitely breeds … very succesfully as well.
    Just before Covid we had to redo the flooring in a lot of rooms in our house. So we had to move all the furniture from one room to another. And to do that, we needed to empty them. Oh boy, I threw out more than half of the clothes in my overstuffed wardrobes and would you know it, they’re still somewhat overstuffed. And I hate shopping for clothes, I do not like shoes … well it seems I hate throwing away things even more. We also culled our board games, we had more than most shops, so all of the ones we were doubtful about got played one last time and then most of them went to charity shops. Charity shops love to receive games especially before christmas. We still have far too many board games 🙁
    But the worst is getting rid of books, other than a few we had twice and the DOS 5.0 manual, not a lot got tossed. Maybe we should renovate something else and start another decluttering round?

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  67. Clutter definitely breeds … very succesfully as well.
    Just before Covid we had to redo the flooring in a lot of rooms in our house. So we had to move all the furniture from one room to another. And to do that, we needed to empty them. Oh boy, I threw out more than half of the clothes in my overstuffed wardrobes and would you know it, they’re still somewhat overstuffed. And I hate shopping for clothes, I do not like shoes … well it seems I hate throwing away things even more. We also culled our board games, we had more than most shops, so all of the ones we were doubtful about got played one last time and then most of them went to charity shops. Charity shops love to receive games especially before christmas. We still have far too many board games 🙁
    But the worst is getting rid of books, other than a few we had twice and the DOS 5.0 manual, not a lot got tossed. Maybe we should renovate something else and start another decluttering round?

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  68. Clutter definitely breeds … very succesfully as well.
    Just before Covid we had to redo the flooring in a lot of rooms in our house. So we had to move all the furniture from one room to another. And to do that, we needed to empty them. Oh boy, I threw out more than half of the clothes in my overstuffed wardrobes and would you know it, they’re still somewhat overstuffed. And I hate shopping for clothes, I do not like shoes … well it seems I hate throwing away things even more. We also culled our board games, we had more than most shops, so all of the ones we were doubtful about got played one last time and then most of them went to charity shops. Charity shops love to receive games especially before christmas. We still have far too many board games 🙁
    But the worst is getting rid of books, other than a few we had twice and the DOS 5.0 manual, not a lot got tossed. Maybe we should renovate something else and start another decluttering round?

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  69. Clutter definitely breeds … very succesfully as well.
    Just before Covid we had to redo the flooring in a lot of rooms in our house. So we had to move all the furniture from one room to another. And to do that, we needed to empty them. Oh boy, I threw out more than half of the clothes in my overstuffed wardrobes and would you know it, they’re still somewhat overstuffed. And I hate shopping for clothes, I do not like shoes … well it seems I hate throwing away things even more. We also culled our board games, we had more than most shops, so all of the ones we were doubtful about got played one last time and then most of them went to charity shops. Charity shops love to receive games especially before christmas. We still have far too many board games 🙁
    But the worst is getting rid of books, other than a few we had twice and the DOS 5.0 manual, not a lot got tossed. Maybe we should renovate something else and start another decluttering round?

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  70. Clutter definitely breeds … very succesfully as well.
    Just before Covid we had to redo the flooring in a lot of rooms in our house. So we had to move all the furniture from one room to another. And to do that, we needed to empty them. Oh boy, I threw out more than half of the clothes in my overstuffed wardrobes and would you know it, they’re still somewhat overstuffed. And I hate shopping for clothes, I do not like shoes … well it seems I hate throwing away things even more. We also culled our board games, we had more than most shops, so all of the ones we were doubtful about got played one last time and then most of them went to charity shops. Charity shops love to receive games especially before christmas. We still have far too many board games 🙁
    But the worst is getting rid of books, other than a few we had twice and the DOS 5.0 manual, not a lot got tossed. Maybe we should renovate something else and start another decluttering round?

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  71. All this sounds very familiar!
    I had a floor and lighting installed in my loft to provide more space and it now looks like a warehouse. Not pretty, but I tell myself that it is excellent thermal insulation!
    Moving is a time for new resolutions. In writing resolution is the end of a story. This could be the beginning of a new story.
    Good luck Anne.

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  72. All this sounds very familiar!
    I had a floor and lighting installed in my loft to provide more space and it now looks like a warehouse. Not pretty, but I tell myself that it is excellent thermal insulation!
    Moving is a time for new resolutions. In writing resolution is the end of a story. This could be the beginning of a new story.
    Good luck Anne.

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  73. All this sounds very familiar!
    I had a floor and lighting installed in my loft to provide more space and it now looks like a warehouse. Not pretty, but I tell myself that it is excellent thermal insulation!
    Moving is a time for new resolutions. In writing resolution is the end of a story. This could be the beginning of a new story.
    Good luck Anne.

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  74. All this sounds very familiar!
    I had a floor and lighting installed in my loft to provide more space and it now looks like a warehouse. Not pretty, but I tell myself that it is excellent thermal insulation!
    Moving is a time for new resolutions. In writing resolution is the end of a story. This could be the beginning of a new story.
    Good luck Anne.

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  75. All this sounds very familiar!
    I had a floor and lighting installed in my loft to provide more space and it now looks like a warehouse. Not pretty, but I tell myself that it is excellent thermal insulation!
    Moving is a time for new resolutions. In writing resolution is the end of a story. This could be the beginning of a new story.
    Good luck Anne.

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  76. I think you’re absolutely right – it’s the thrill of the hunt! I go to local auctions and find things I absolutely must buy, but a year later I’m thinking “why?” I’m also looking around me right now and thinking “eeek”! I need to do some serious decluttering too but it’s very daunting, isn’t it. Best of luck with yours and with the move!

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  77. I think you’re absolutely right – it’s the thrill of the hunt! I go to local auctions and find things I absolutely must buy, but a year later I’m thinking “why?” I’m also looking around me right now and thinking “eeek”! I need to do some serious decluttering too but it’s very daunting, isn’t it. Best of luck with yours and with the move!

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  78. I think you’re absolutely right – it’s the thrill of the hunt! I go to local auctions and find things I absolutely must buy, but a year later I’m thinking “why?” I’m also looking around me right now and thinking “eeek”! I need to do some serious decluttering too but it’s very daunting, isn’t it. Best of luck with yours and with the move!

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  79. I think you’re absolutely right – it’s the thrill of the hunt! I go to local auctions and find things I absolutely must buy, but a year later I’m thinking “why?” I’m also looking around me right now and thinking “eeek”! I need to do some serious decluttering too but it’s very daunting, isn’t it. Best of luck with yours and with the move!

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  80. I think you’re absolutely right – it’s the thrill of the hunt! I go to local auctions and find things I absolutely must buy, but a year later I’m thinking “why?” I’m also looking around me right now and thinking “eeek”! I need to do some serious decluttering too but it’s very daunting, isn’t it. Best of luck with yours and with the move!

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  81. LOL Katja — yes, it seems renovation is the key. I can’t believe the mess my house is now — all that stuff that’s piled in boxes looked quite neat when it was all tucked away on shelves and in cupboards. But pull it out, and it’s an eye-opener.

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  82. LOL Katja — yes, it seems renovation is the key. I can’t believe the mess my house is now — all that stuff that’s piled in boxes looked quite neat when it was all tucked away on shelves and in cupboards. But pull it out, and it’s an eye-opener.

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  83. LOL Katja — yes, it seems renovation is the key. I can’t believe the mess my house is now — all that stuff that’s piled in boxes looked quite neat when it was all tucked away on shelves and in cupboards. But pull it out, and it’s an eye-opener.

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  84. LOL Katja — yes, it seems renovation is the key. I can’t believe the mess my house is now — all that stuff that’s piled in boxes looked quite neat when it was all tucked away on shelves and in cupboards. But pull it out, and it’s an eye-opener.

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  85. LOL Katja — yes, it seems renovation is the key. I can’t believe the mess my house is now — all that stuff that’s piled in boxes looked quite neat when it was all tucked away on shelves and in cupboards. But pull it out, and it’s an eye-opener.

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  86. You are indeed right, Mary. But what you’ve described is still, in my view, just a modern interpretation of hunter-gathering.
    I’m currently feeling good-(ish) about the seven boxes of books in my car boot that are going to the charity shop tomorrow.

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  87. You are indeed right, Mary. But what you’ve described is still, in my view, just a modern interpretation of hunter-gathering.
    I’m currently feeling good-(ish) about the seven boxes of books in my car boot that are going to the charity shop tomorrow.

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  88. You are indeed right, Mary. But what you’ve described is still, in my view, just a modern interpretation of hunter-gathering.
    I’m currently feeling good-(ish) about the seven boxes of books in my car boot that are going to the charity shop tomorrow.

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  89. You are indeed right, Mary. But what you’ve described is still, in my view, just a modern interpretation of hunter-gathering.
    I’m currently feeling good-(ish) about the seven boxes of books in my car boot that are going to the charity shop tomorrow.

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  90. You are indeed right, Mary. But what you’ve described is still, in my view, just a modern interpretation of hunter-gathering.
    I’m currently feeling good-(ish) about the seven boxes of books in my car boot that are going to the charity shop tomorrow.

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  91. Thermal insulation is it, Quantum? In my case that would no doubt be a fire trap.
    I like your idea about a new story. In so many of my old stories I have a hero or heroine living in a run-down house — subliminal identification, maybe. Now that I’m moving into a house that needs nothing doing to it, perhaps my fictional people will live in fabulous mansions. Who knows?
    Thanks for the good wishes. I need ’em.

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  92. Thermal insulation is it, Quantum? In my case that would no doubt be a fire trap.
    I like your idea about a new story. In so many of my old stories I have a hero or heroine living in a run-down house — subliminal identification, maybe. Now that I’m moving into a house that needs nothing doing to it, perhaps my fictional people will live in fabulous mansions. Who knows?
    Thanks for the good wishes. I need ’em.

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  93. Thermal insulation is it, Quantum? In my case that would no doubt be a fire trap.
    I like your idea about a new story. In so many of my old stories I have a hero or heroine living in a run-down house — subliminal identification, maybe. Now that I’m moving into a house that needs nothing doing to it, perhaps my fictional people will live in fabulous mansions. Who knows?
    Thanks for the good wishes. I need ’em.

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  94. Thermal insulation is it, Quantum? In my case that would no doubt be a fire trap.
    I like your idea about a new story. In so many of my old stories I have a hero or heroine living in a run-down house — subliminal identification, maybe. Now that I’m moving into a house that needs nothing doing to it, perhaps my fictional people will live in fabulous mansions. Who knows?
    Thanks for the good wishes. I need ’em.

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  95. Thermal insulation is it, Quantum? In my case that would no doubt be a fire trap.
    I like your idea about a new story. In so many of my old stories I have a hero or heroine living in a run-down house — subliminal identification, maybe. Now that I’m moving into a house that needs nothing doing to it, perhaps my fictional people will live in fabulous mansions. Who knows?
    Thanks for the good wishes. I need ’em.

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  96. Very daunting, Christina. But cathartic. Today a friend helped me pack up the books in the study — 2 walls of shelves 6ft high. I haven’t counted the boxes we filled, but I have seven in the boot to be given away.
    Thanks for the good thoughts.

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  97. Very daunting, Christina. But cathartic. Today a friend helped me pack up the books in the study — 2 walls of shelves 6ft high. I haven’t counted the boxes we filled, but I have seven in the boot to be given away.
    Thanks for the good thoughts.

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  98. Very daunting, Christina. But cathartic. Today a friend helped me pack up the books in the study — 2 walls of shelves 6ft high. I haven’t counted the boxes we filled, but I have seven in the boot to be given away.
    Thanks for the good thoughts.

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  99. Very daunting, Christina. But cathartic. Today a friend helped me pack up the books in the study — 2 walls of shelves 6ft high. I haven’t counted the boxes we filled, but I have seven in the boot to be given away.
    Thanks for the good thoughts.

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  100. Very daunting, Christina. But cathartic. Today a friend helped me pack up the books in the study — 2 walls of shelves 6ft high. I haven’t counted the boxes we filled, but I have seven in the boot to be given away.
    Thanks for the good thoughts.

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  101. Several years ago, a good friend went from New England to Arizona on vacation, fell in love with the desert, came home, sold her house here, bought a new one in Tucson, packed up and moved – all in less than a month! When I told her that I was not only sad that she was leaving but also amazed that she could pack up and go in that little time, and that I didn’t think I could ever do that, she replied, “ I don’t think you could either – I’ve seen your basement!” Sadly, she was right. But after retiring 6 months ago, I, like Mary T, am trying to pare down. I look around and think, why did I ever think I needed all these handbags? All these shoes? All these cake pans? All these wine glasses? I know why I need all the books, but still…. And like you, Anne, each trip to drop off stuff at the thrift store is also temptation to wander through! My new rule is: for anything that comes in, 4 things have to go out! So far, it’s working; time will tell! Have a wonderful time settling into your new home, Anne!

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  102. Several years ago, a good friend went from New England to Arizona on vacation, fell in love with the desert, came home, sold her house here, bought a new one in Tucson, packed up and moved – all in less than a month! When I told her that I was not only sad that she was leaving but also amazed that she could pack up and go in that little time, and that I didn’t think I could ever do that, she replied, “ I don’t think you could either – I’ve seen your basement!” Sadly, she was right. But after retiring 6 months ago, I, like Mary T, am trying to pare down. I look around and think, why did I ever think I needed all these handbags? All these shoes? All these cake pans? All these wine glasses? I know why I need all the books, but still…. And like you, Anne, each trip to drop off stuff at the thrift store is also temptation to wander through! My new rule is: for anything that comes in, 4 things have to go out! So far, it’s working; time will tell! Have a wonderful time settling into your new home, Anne!

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  103. Several years ago, a good friend went from New England to Arizona on vacation, fell in love with the desert, came home, sold her house here, bought a new one in Tucson, packed up and moved – all in less than a month! When I told her that I was not only sad that she was leaving but also amazed that she could pack up and go in that little time, and that I didn’t think I could ever do that, she replied, “ I don’t think you could either – I’ve seen your basement!” Sadly, she was right. But after retiring 6 months ago, I, like Mary T, am trying to pare down. I look around and think, why did I ever think I needed all these handbags? All these shoes? All these cake pans? All these wine glasses? I know why I need all the books, but still…. And like you, Anne, each trip to drop off stuff at the thrift store is also temptation to wander through! My new rule is: for anything that comes in, 4 things have to go out! So far, it’s working; time will tell! Have a wonderful time settling into your new home, Anne!

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  104. Several years ago, a good friend went from New England to Arizona on vacation, fell in love with the desert, came home, sold her house here, bought a new one in Tucson, packed up and moved – all in less than a month! When I told her that I was not only sad that she was leaving but also amazed that she could pack up and go in that little time, and that I didn’t think I could ever do that, she replied, “ I don’t think you could either – I’ve seen your basement!” Sadly, she was right. But after retiring 6 months ago, I, like Mary T, am trying to pare down. I look around and think, why did I ever think I needed all these handbags? All these shoes? All these cake pans? All these wine glasses? I know why I need all the books, but still…. And like you, Anne, each trip to drop off stuff at the thrift store is also temptation to wander through! My new rule is: for anything that comes in, 4 things have to go out! So far, it’s working; time will tell! Have a wonderful time settling into your new home, Anne!

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  105. Several years ago, a good friend went from New England to Arizona on vacation, fell in love with the desert, came home, sold her house here, bought a new one in Tucson, packed up and moved – all in less than a month! When I told her that I was not only sad that she was leaving but also amazed that she could pack up and go in that little time, and that I didn’t think I could ever do that, she replied, “ I don’t think you could either – I’ve seen your basement!” Sadly, she was right. But after retiring 6 months ago, I, like Mary T, am trying to pare down. I look around and think, why did I ever think I needed all these handbags? All these shoes? All these cake pans? All these wine glasses? I know why I need all the books, but still…. And like you, Anne, each trip to drop off stuff at the thrift store is also temptation to wander through! My new rule is: for anything that comes in, 4 things have to go out! So far, it’s working; time will tell! Have a wonderful time settling into your new home, Anne!

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  106. I totally understand the OH MY GOSH!! HOW did I end up with so much stuff! I’ve done some major, major decluttering since Nov 2020 but there is plenty more to go. I did get rid of at least 50% of my clothes but probably should do another 25%.
    Like you, I don’t do new clothes, new anything mostly (except books and food). But definitely that hunter/gatherer mentality comes into play. Especially if I develop a new interest… I hunt, I gather, I admire. Then I go WHY did I gather so much.
    With all the purging I’ve been doing I’ve decided that when my parents pass on, I’m going to try to be very restrained about what I bring home because there is absolutely nowhere to put anything. Luckily I have 4 sisters and 10 nieces/nephews so……that will help. I’ll just be going, no no, you take it… They will think I’m being so very nice (grin).
    But all this purging and thinking has made me think what DO I want to keep now. I have no children. Most of what I have no one in the family will want so if I’m doing nothing with it now, why keep it. Which has been very freeing as well. Definitely the more I get rid of, the easier it has been.
    Good luck on your move and fitting everything in your new house. It will be beautiful and lovely once it is all done.

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  107. I totally understand the OH MY GOSH!! HOW did I end up with so much stuff! I’ve done some major, major decluttering since Nov 2020 but there is plenty more to go. I did get rid of at least 50% of my clothes but probably should do another 25%.
    Like you, I don’t do new clothes, new anything mostly (except books and food). But definitely that hunter/gatherer mentality comes into play. Especially if I develop a new interest… I hunt, I gather, I admire. Then I go WHY did I gather so much.
    With all the purging I’ve been doing I’ve decided that when my parents pass on, I’m going to try to be very restrained about what I bring home because there is absolutely nowhere to put anything. Luckily I have 4 sisters and 10 nieces/nephews so……that will help. I’ll just be going, no no, you take it… They will think I’m being so very nice (grin).
    But all this purging and thinking has made me think what DO I want to keep now. I have no children. Most of what I have no one in the family will want so if I’m doing nothing with it now, why keep it. Which has been very freeing as well. Definitely the more I get rid of, the easier it has been.
    Good luck on your move and fitting everything in your new house. It will be beautiful and lovely once it is all done.

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  108. I totally understand the OH MY GOSH!! HOW did I end up with so much stuff! I’ve done some major, major decluttering since Nov 2020 but there is plenty more to go. I did get rid of at least 50% of my clothes but probably should do another 25%.
    Like you, I don’t do new clothes, new anything mostly (except books and food). But definitely that hunter/gatherer mentality comes into play. Especially if I develop a new interest… I hunt, I gather, I admire. Then I go WHY did I gather so much.
    With all the purging I’ve been doing I’ve decided that when my parents pass on, I’m going to try to be very restrained about what I bring home because there is absolutely nowhere to put anything. Luckily I have 4 sisters and 10 nieces/nephews so……that will help. I’ll just be going, no no, you take it… They will think I’m being so very nice (grin).
    But all this purging and thinking has made me think what DO I want to keep now. I have no children. Most of what I have no one in the family will want so if I’m doing nothing with it now, why keep it. Which has been very freeing as well. Definitely the more I get rid of, the easier it has been.
    Good luck on your move and fitting everything in your new house. It will be beautiful and lovely once it is all done.

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  109. I totally understand the OH MY GOSH!! HOW did I end up with so much stuff! I’ve done some major, major decluttering since Nov 2020 but there is plenty more to go. I did get rid of at least 50% of my clothes but probably should do another 25%.
    Like you, I don’t do new clothes, new anything mostly (except books and food). But definitely that hunter/gatherer mentality comes into play. Especially if I develop a new interest… I hunt, I gather, I admire. Then I go WHY did I gather so much.
    With all the purging I’ve been doing I’ve decided that when my parents pass on, I’m going to try to be very restrained about what I bring home because there is absolutely nowhere to put anything. Luckily I have 4 sisters and 10 nieces/nephews so……that will help. I’ll just be going, no no, you take it… They will think I’m being so very nice (grin).
    But all this purging and thinking has made me think what DO I want to keep now. I have no children. Most of what I have no one in the family will want so if I’m doing nothing with it now, why keep it. Which has been very freeing as well. Definitely the more I get rid of, the easier it has been.
    Good luck on your move and fitting everything in your new house. It will be beautiful and lovely once it is all done.

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  110. I totally understand the OH MY GOSH!! HOW did I end up with so much stuff! I’ve done some major, major decluttering since Nov 2020 but there is plenty more to go. I did get rid of at least 50% of my clothes but probably should do another 25%.
    Like you, I don’t do new clothes, new anything mostly (except books and food). But definitely that hunter/gatherer mentality comes into play. Especially if I develop a new interest… I hunt, I gather, I admire. Then I go WHY did I gather so much.
    With all the purging I’ve been doing I’ve decided that when my parents pass on, I’m going to try to be very restrained about what I bring home because there is absolutely nowhere to put anything. Luckily I have 4 sisters and 10 nieces/nephews so……that will help. I’ll just be going, no no, you take it… They will think I’m being so very nice (grin).
    But all this purging and thinking has made me think what DO I want to keep now. I have no children. Most of what I have no one in the family will want so if I’m doing nothing with it now, why keep it. Which has been very freeing as well. Definitely the more I get rid of, the easier it has been.
    Good luck on your move and fitting everything in your new house. It will be beautiful and lovely once it is all done.

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  111. First Congratulations on all you are accomplishing, Anne. Thank you for this post.
    I have been clearing out for quite some time. In the past, I have had a weakness for finding things which spoke to me. Apparently, I should have had ear muffs on. I have stuff, I have been getting rid of stuff for quite some time and all my stuff is reproducing in the dark of night.
    But, I will have the hardest time getting rid of books.
    I hope everyone is happy.

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  112. First Congratulations on all you are accomplishing, Anne. Thank you for this post.
    I have been clearing out for quite some time. In the past, I have had a weakness for finding things which spoke to me. Apparently, I should have had ear muffs on. I have stuff, I have been getting rid of stuff for quite some time and all my stuff is reproducing in the dark of night.
    But, I will have the hardest time getting rid of books.
    I hope everyone is happy.

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  113. First Congratulations on all you are accomplishing, Anne. Thank you for this post.
    I have been clearing out for quite some time. In the past, I have had a weakness for finding things which spoke to me. Apparently, I should have had ear muffs on. I have stuff, I have been getting rid of stuff for quite some time and all my stuff is reproducing in the dark of night.
    But, I will have the hardest time getting rid of books.
    I hope everyone is happy.

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  114. First Congratulations on all you are accomplishing, Anne. Thank you for this post.
    I have been clearing out for quite some time. In the past, I have had a weakness for finding things which spoke to me. Apparently, I should have had ear muffs on. I have stuff, I have been getting rid of stuff for quite some time and all my stuff is reproducing in the dark of night.
    But, I will have the hardest time getting rid of books.
    I hope everyone is happy.

    Reply
  115. First Congratulations on all you are accomplishing, Anne. Thank you for this post.
    I have been clearing out for quite some time. In the past, I have had a weakness for finding things which spoke to me. Apparently, I should have had ear muffs on. I have stuff, I have been getting rid of stuff for quite some time and all my stuff is reproducing in the dark of night.
    But, I will have the hardest time getting rid of books.
    I hope everyone is happy.

    Reply
  116. We moved in to our present house sixteen years ago. It was a nightmare trying to move all our ‘stuff’ and we got rid of as much again. Now we’re back to square one!! There is stuff everywhere and even though my two daughters have moved out, one many years ago, they still have bedrooms here full of their junk!! I would dread having to move again.
    Good luck with the move Anne and can I also say congratulations on the awards you recently won. Well deserved.

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  117. We moved in to our present house sixteen years ago. It was a nightmare trying to move all our ‘stuff’ and we got rid of as much again. Now we’re back to square one!! There is stuff everywhere and even though my two daughters have moved out, one many years ago, they still have bedrooms here full of their junk!! I would dread having to move again.
    Good luck with the move Anne and can I also say congratulations on the awards you recently won. Well deserved.

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  118. We moved in to our present house sixteen years ago. It was a nightmare trying to move all our ‘stuff’ and we got rid of as much again. Now we’re back to square one!! There is stuff everywhere and even though my two daughters have moved out, one many years ago, they still have bedrooms here full of their junk!! I would dread having to move again.
    Good luck with the move Anne and can I also say congratulations on the awards you recently won. Well deserved.

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  119. We moved in to our present house sixteen years ago. It was a nightmare trying to move all our ‘stuff’ and we got rid of as much again. Now we’re back to square one!! There is stuff everywhere and even though my two daughters have moved out, one many years ago, they still have bedrooms here full of their junk!! I would dread having to move again.
    Good luck with the move Anne and can I also say congratulations on the awards you recently won. Well deserved.

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  120. We moved in to our present house sixteen years ago. It was a nightmare trying to move all our ‘stuff’ and we got rid of as much again. Now we’re back to square one!! There is stuff everywhere and even though my two daughters have moved out, one many years ago, they still have bedrooms here full of their junk!! I would dread having to move again.
    Good luck with the move Anne and can I also say congratulations on the awards you recently won. Well deserved.

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  121. Gatherer though most of it is books, Half used notebooks, and somethng that might bge of use. Too many times I have tossed out something or given it away, only to need it. My husband was in the army for most of the twenty years we were married and then we moved several times after he got out of the army so I was ready for a house with an attic and basement and plenty of space. I wasn’t into the Regency at that time so we only had three book cases at first. Then stuff moved in along with many books. When I moved out after 30 years I gave away a dozen book cases and about fifty boxes of paper backs and carried about seven book cases to a 3 bedroom condo. I now have more than 18 book cases and could use about 3 more if I had room to put them. Then there is my knitting I am always neglecting, and the material and patterns for Regency dresses. My son and cats fit in here somewhere.

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  122. Gatherer though most of it is books, Half used notebooks, and somethng that might bge of use. Too many times I have tossed out something or given it away, only to need it. My husband was in the army for most of the twenty years we were married and then we moved several times after he got out of the army so I was ready for a house with an attic and basement and plenty of space. I wasn’t into the Regency at that time so we only had three book cases at first. Then stuff moved in along with many books. When I moved out after 30 years I gave away a dozen book cases and about fifty boxes of paper backs and carried about seven book cases to a 3 bedroom condo. I now have more than 18 book cases and could use about 3 more if I had room to put them. Then there is my knitting I am always neglecting, and the material and patterns for Regency dresses. My son and cats fit in here somewhere.

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  123. Gatherer though most of it is books, Half used notebooks, and somethng that might bge of use. Too many times I have tossed out something or given it away, only to need it. My husband was in the army for most of the twenty years we were married and then we moved several times after he got out of the army so I was ready for a house with an attic and basement and plenty of space. I wasn’t into the Regency at that time so we only had three book cases at first. Then stuff moved in along with many books. When I moved out after 30 years I gave away a dozen book cases and about fifty boxes of paper backs and carried about seven book cases to a 3 bedroom condo. I now have more than 18 book cases and could use about 3 more if I had room to put them. Then there is my knitting I am always neglecting, and the material and patterns for Regency dresses. My son and cats fit in here somewhere.

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  124. Gatherer though most of it is books, Half used notebooks, and somethng that might bge of use. Too many times I have tossed out something or given it away, only to need it. My husband was in the army for most of the twenty years we were married and then we moved several times after he got out of the army so I was ready for a house with an attic and basement and plenty of space. I wasn’t into the Regency at that time so we only had three book cases at first. Then stuff moved in along with many books. When I moved out after 30 years I gave away a dozen book cases and about fifty boxes of paper backs and carried about seven book cases to a 3 bedroom condo. I now have more than 18 book cases and could use about 3 more if I had room to put them. Then there is my knitting I am always neglecting, and the material and patterns for Regency dresses. My son and cats fit in here somewhere.

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  125. Gatherer though most of it is books, Half used notebooks, and somethng that might bge of use. Too many times I have tossed out something or given it away, only to need it. My husband was in the army for most of the twenty years we were married and then we moved several times after he got out of the army so I was ready for a house with an attic and basement and plenty of space. I wasn’t into the Regency at that time so we only had three book cases at first. Then stuff moved in along with many books. When I moved out after 30 years I gave away a dozen book cases and about fifty boxes of paper backs and carried about seven book cases to a 3 bedroom condo. I now have more than 18 book cases and could use about 3 more if I had room to put them. Then there is my knitting I am always neglecting, and the material and patterns for Regency dresses. My son and cats fit in here somewhere.

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  126. ” I’ve seen your basement!” LOL Constance. Luckily I don’t have a basement. I can imagine basements and attics are very tempting places to stash stuff. My new house has what they called “Attic storage” — with a ladder thingy, but I’m not even going to investigate it!
    I like your one thing in 4 things out rule. I might adopt that.
    Thanks for the good wishes. A man is coming any minute to take away my computer desk, a bed base, wardrobe, a cupboard, filing cabinet and a broken table. Should make more room for boxes.

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  127. ” I’ve seen your basement!” LOL Constance. Luckily I don’t have a basement. I can imagine basements and attics are very tempting places to stash stuff. My new house has what they called “Attic storage” — with a ladder thingy, but I’m not even going to investigate it!
    I like your one thing in 4 things out rule. I might adopt that.
    Thanks for the good wishes. A man is coming any minute to take away my computer desk, a bed base, wardrobe, a cupboard, filing cabinet and a broken table. Should make more room for boxes.

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  128. ” I’ve seen your basement!” LOL Constance. Luckily I don’t have a basement. I can imagine basements and attics are very tempting places to stash stuff. My new house has what they called “Attic storage” — with a ladder thingy, but I’m not even going to investigate it!
    I like your one thing in 4 things out rule. I might adopt that.
    Thanks for the good wishes. A man is coming any minute to take away my computer desk, a bed base, wardrobe, a cupboard, filing cabinet and a broken table. Should make more room for boxes.

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  129. ” I’ve seen your basement!” LOL Constance. Luckily I don’t have a basement. I can imagine basements and attics are very tempting places to stash stuff. My new house has what they called “Attic storage” — with a ladder thingy, but I’m not even going to investigate it!
    I like your one thing in 4 things out rule. I might adopt that.
    Thanks for the good wishes. A man is coming any minute to take away my computer desk, a bed base, wardrobe, a cupboard, filing cabinet and a broken table. Should make more room for boxes.

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  130. ” I’ve seen your basement!” LOL Constance. Luckily I don’t have a basement. I can imagine basements and attics are very tempting places to stash stuff. My new house has what they called “Attic storage” — with a ladder thingy, but I’m not even going to investigate it!
    I like your one thing in 4 things out rule. I might adopt that.
    Thanks for the good wishes. A man is coming any minute to take away my computer desk, a bed base, wardrobe, a cupboard, filing cabinet and a broken table. Should make more room for boxes.

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  131. Thanks, Vicki — I appreciate all the good wenchly-reader wishes.
    A word of warning about your plans to hand stuff on to the next generation — I have found that generally they don’t want it. Or maybe that’s just my family.

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  132. Thanks, Vicki — I appreciate all the good wenchly-reader wishes.
    A word of warning about your plans to hand stuff on to the next generation — I have found that generally they don’t want it. Or maybe that’s just my family.

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  133. Thanks, Vicki — I appreciate all the good wenchly-reader wishes.
    A word of warning about your plans to hand stuff on to the next generation — I have found that generally they don’t want it. Or maybe that’s just my family.

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  134. Thanks, Vicki — I appreciate all the good wenchly-reader wishes.
    A word of warning about your plans to hand stuff on to the next generation — I have found that generally they don’t want it. Or maybe that’s just my family.

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  135. Thanks, Vicki — I appreciate all the good wenchly-reader wishes.
    A word of warning about your plans to hand stuff on to the next generation — I have found that generally they don’t want it. Or maybe that’s just my family.

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  136. LOL on the ear muffs, Annette — let me know where you get them. You’d probably make a fortune selling them — I think battling with clutter is a modern problem.
    And yes, you’re right — it reproduces in the night!

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  137. LOL on the ear muffs, Annette — let me know where you get them. You’d probably make a fortune selling them — I think battling with clutter is a modern problem.
    And yes, you’re right — it reproduces in the night!

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  138. LOL on the ear muffs, Annette — let me know where you get them. You’d probably make a fortune selling them — I think battling with clutter is a modern problem.
    And yes, you’re right — it reproduces in the night!

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  139. LOL on the ear muffs, Annette — let me know where you get them. You’d probably make a fortune selling them — I think battling with clutter is a modern problem.
    And yes, you’re right — it reproduces in the night!

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  140. LOL on the ear muffs, Annette — let me know where you get them. You’d probably make a fortune selling them — I think battling with clutter is a modern problem.
    And yes, you’re right — it reproduces in the night!

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  141. Teresa my mum battled with clutter too, but she had NO trouble getting rid of any stuff I left behind after I moved out. It was take it or lose it!
    Thanks for the congrats too, I was really thrilled about those two awards, as they’re nominated and voted on by reader members only.

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  142. Teresa my mum battled with clutter too, but she had NO trouble getting rid of any stuff I left behind after I moved out. It was take it or lose it!
    Thanks for the congrats too, I was really thrilled about those two awards, as they’re nominated and voted on by reader members only.

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  143. Teresa my mum battled with clutter too, but she had NO trouble getting rid of any stuff I left behind after I moved out. It was take it or lose it!
    Thanks for the congrats too, I was really thrilled about those two awards, as they’re nominated and voted on by reader members only.

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  144. Teresa my mum battled with clutter too, but she had NO trouble getting rid of any stuff I left behind after I moved out. It was take it or lose it!
    Thanks for the congrats too, I was really thrilled about those two awards, as they’re nominated and voted on by reader members only.

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  145. Teresa my mum battled with clutter too, but she had NO trouble getting rid of any stuff I left behind after I moved out. It was take it or lose it!
    Thanks for the congrats too, I was really thrilled about those two awards, as they’re nominated and voted on by reader members only.

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  146. Nancy I can see how the cat might fit, but the son? LOL. Yes, books and craft stuff are part of my weakness. Also papers, but I have reduced 8 filing cabinet drawers to two, so that was an achievement.

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  147. Nancy I can see how the cat might fit, but the son? LOL. Yes, books and craft stuff are part of my weakness. Also papers, but I have reduced 8 filing cabinet drawers to two, so that was an achievement.

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  148. Nancy I can see how the cat might fit, but the son? LOL. Yes, books and craft stuff are part of my weakness. Also papers, but I have reduced 8 filing cabinet drawers to two, so that was an achievement.

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  149. Nancy I can see how the cat might fit, but the son? LOL. Yes, books and craft stuff are part of my weakness. Also papers, but I have reduced 8 filing cabinet drawers to two, so that was an achievement.

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  150. Nancy I can see how the cat might fit, but the son? LOL. Yes, books and craft stuff are part of my weakness. Also papers, but I have reduced 8 filing cabinet drawers to two, so that was an achievement.

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  151. Thanks for the link, ML. “Supply lines are getting harder to maintain” struck me as particularly amusing!

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  152. Thanks for the link, ML. “Supply lines are getting harder to maintain” struck me as particularly amusing!

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  153. Thanks for the link, ML. “Supply lines are getting harder to maintain” struck me as particularly amusing!

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  154. Thanks for the link, ML. “Supply lines are getting harder to maintain” struck me as particularly amusing!

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  155. Thanks for the link, ML. “Supply lines are getting harder to maintain” struck me as particularly amusing!

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  156. I am not a shopper either, but I still have way too much stuff! I am thrifty and hate to throw away things that are useful, plus after 50 years, hand-me-downs. sentimental items, gifts, etc. just accumulate. I did make a dent in some of my possessions over the last 2 years, but unfortunately a lot of used books sales were cancelled during the pandemic, and I just don’t have the heart to throw books away.

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  157. I am not a shopper either, but I still have way too much stuff! I am thrifty and hate to throw away things that are useful, plus after 50 years, hand-me-downs. sentimental items, gifts, etc. just accumulate. I did make a dent in some of my possessions over the last 2 years, but unfortunately a lot of used books sales were cancelled during the pandemic, and I just don’t have the heart to throw books away.

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  158. I am not a shopper either, but I still have way too much stuff! I am thrifty and hate to throw away things that are useful, plus after 50 years, hand-me-downs. sentimental items, gifts, etc. just accumulate. I did make a dent in some of my possessions over the last 2 years, but unfortunately a lot of used books sales were cancelled during the pandemic, and I just don’t have the heart to throw books away.

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  159. I am not a shopper either, but I still have way too much stuff! I am thrifty and hate to throw away things that are useful, plus after 50 years, hand-me-downs. sentimental items, gifts, etc. just accumulate. I did make a dent in some of my possessions over the last 2 years, but unfortunately a lot of used books sales were cancelled during the pandemic, and I just don’t have the heart to throw books away.

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  160. I am not a shopper either, but I still have way too much stuff! I am thrifty and hate to throw away things that are useful, plus after 50 years, hand-me-downs. sentimental items, gifts, etc. just accumulate. I did make a dent in some of my possessions over the last 2 years, but unfortunately a lot of used books sales were cancelled during the pandemic, and I just don’t have the heart to throw books away.

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