Acting Your Age

Christina here. Something I was doing recently made me think about the phrase ‘acting your age’ and I realised I don’t like it. Not one bit. Why should we have to act in a certain way just because we happen to have lived a particular number of years? Isn’t it up to us how we act? And age is just a number anyway – on the inside, I’m pretty sure we are all still much younger than our outside would suggest. Do we really need to lose that youthful enthusiasm entirely just because society’s norms dictate that it should be so?

Ripped jeansMy mother is both my biggest fan and my fiercest critic, and she strongly objects to some of my choices. Silly things, like me wearing ripped jeans for example – she thinks I’m too old for that and told me that “old ladies don’t wear clothes with holes in them”. First of all, why not if the holes are meant to be there? And secondly, for the record I’m no spring chicken but I’m not THAT old either! Besides, ripped jeans are the fashion so I resent not being allowed to wear them if I want to. I happen to like that look and if others can, so can I.

To me it’s the principle of the thing – we should each be able to make our own choices without being judged. And at what point do we get too old for things? Is there a list somewhere that details that at exactly a certain age a woman (or man for that matter) can’t wear ripped jeans, has to let her hair go grey, act decorously and not laugh too loudly in public? (Yes, my children occasionally think I’m too loud when we’re out together … sigh, my family has so many opinions!).

Why is society still so judgemental? It feels like a throw-back to the past when women had to give up their jobs because they got married and they had to start acting a certain way. It was all a façade, living up to other people’s standards and expectations. There must have been so many frustrated women back then! And there still are.

People who don’t “act their age” are often considered eccentric or abnormal in some way. But isn’t it human nature that we are all different? To me, so called eccentric people are fun and I love spending time with them. They are interesting! I’ve been called “weird” and told that I have a “unique” style of dressing – I take it as a compliment. When I grew up my friends and I were terrified of wearing anything that wasn’t in fashion or exactly the same as what everyone else wore. Thinking back, that seems ridiculous and now I wear what suits me and what I like. I dress for myself, not other people. Sure, I take into account where I’m going and what I’m doing – if formal wear is required, I’ll go with that, but in a style of my choosing. The point is, I no longer mind standing out and I’m not afraid of not looking exactly like everyone else.

Silver Fox

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Then there are the terms ‘silver fox’ and, occasionally, ‘silver vixen’ – I don’t like the sound of that either. It’s as if the people described thus are attractive DESPITE their age, as if they are some sort of phenomenon. Attraction is comprised of so many things and looks is just one of them. Chemistry is something we can’t easily define and it can happen between two people no matter what they look like. To me ‘silver fox’ is almost derogatory in some way although I know others don’t mean that.

With regard to heroines in books – the quirkier/sassier/unusual/eccentric they are, the more I like them. It makes them so much more interesting to me. I’ve always wanted to be the kind of woman who can reply with a really good come-back at any given moment, although sadly I’m not (which is probably why I’m a writer – I have time to think up good retorts). The sort of witty repartee that ensues when a heroine gives as good as she gets with a hero is magical; it makes the chemistry sizzle between them which is just as it should be. Having heroines who are “the girl next door” types is fine, but there still has to be something about them that is unusual in order for them to stand out to the hero, right?

Wild DesignsThis also got me thinking about older heroines. I never used to consider this much as almost all the heroines were young in the romance books I read and that was just the way it was. Mostly we equate falling in love with being young or young-ish, but these days that’s not true any more. Lots of people divorce and go on to find love a second, third or fourth time, and it can occur at any age. Love is not the prerogative of the young, it can happen to any of us.

The first time I read a story with a heroine in her late thirties was Katie Fforde’s Wild Designs and it was an absolute revelation – I loved it! Not only was the woman 38 (almost 39), but she didn’t have a perfect figure and flawless face either. She was ordinary and extremely likeable, but quirky. In short, she was someone I could really relate to and it made the book extra enjoyable.

A few years later a publisher started up here in the UK which specifically asked for stories with older women as the main protagonist and I briefly contemplated writing something for them. I never came up with the right story, but I did buy a lot of the books they published. These more mature heroines brought a different perspective to the stories, and at the time I was almost of an age with them so I could definitely relate to their problems and experiences.

Winter SolsticeI read all sorts of books, from teenage romance to generational stories like Winter Solstice by Rosamund Pilcher, and I like the variety of heroines this brings. They all deserve to find love – well, we all do! – in their various ways. But inside my head I will never be older than 35 (some would say I got stuck at 18!) although I’m having a birthday this week with a much higher number, so I do prefer to read about younger heroines who still have their entire life in front of them. Perhaps because I don’t and it’s fun to be in their shoes, living vicariously if only for a while, with endless possibilities on the horizon.

PurpleThat doesn’t mean I’m going to stop living my own life the way I want – in fact, telling me not to wear ripped jeans just makes me want to be contrary and buy another pair. Childish? Maybe, but like a red rag to a bull. And if I look ridiculous, so be it – I’m being true to myself and making my own choices. I fully intend to be like the lady in the poem “Warning” by Jenny Joseph – wearing purple and acting outrageously, just because I can. (Full poem here)

What about you? Do you always “act your age” or do you rebel, even if in a small way? And what sort of heroines appeal to you most – young, mature or all of them depending on your mood?

270 thoughts on “Acting Your Age”

  1. Thank you for a thought provoking post, Christina. Wear your ripped jeans with joy!
    As to internal age, I think I’m twelve and still wondering what I shall be when I grow up. (And if it’s taken me this long to be twelve, I doubt I have enough years left to become an adult!)
    I enjoy romances that feature heroines of all ages from 18 in Sarina Bowen’s The Year We Fell Down to the two heroines at late sixties and 73 in Mrs. Martin’s Incomparable Adventure by Courtney Milan.

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  2. Thank you for a thought provoking post, Christina. Wear your ripped jeans with joy!
    As to internal age, I think I’m twelve and still wondering what I shall be when I grow up. (And if it’s taken me this long to be twelve, I doubt I have enough years left to become an adult!)
    I enjoy romances that feature heroines of all ages from 18 in Sarina Bowen’s The Year We Fell Down to the two heroines at late sixties and 73 in Mrs. Martin’s Incomparable Adventure by Courtney Milan.

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  3. Thank you for a thought provoking post, Christina. Wear your ripped jeans with joy!
    As to internal age, I think I’m twelve and still wondering what I shall be when I grow up. (And if it’s taken me this long to be twelve, I doubt I have enough years left to become an adult!)
    I enjoy romances that feature heroines of all ages from 18 in Sarina Bowen’s The Year We Fell Down to the two heroines at late sixties and 73 in Mrs. Martin’s Incomparable Adventure by Courtney Milan.

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  4. Thank you for a thought provoking post, Christina. Wear your ripped jeans with joy!
    As to internal age, I think I’m twelve and still wondering what I shall be when I grow up. (And if it’s taken me this long to be twelve, I doubt I have enough years left to become an adult!)
    I enjoy romances that feature heroines of all ages from 18 in Sarina Bowen’s The Year We Fell Down to the two heroines at late sixties and 73 in Mrs. Martin’s Incomparable Adventure by Courtney Milan.

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  5. Thank you for a thought provoking post, Christina. Wear your ripped jeans with joy!
    As to internal age, I think I’m twelve and still wondering what I shall be when I grow up. (And if it’s taken me this long to be twelve, I doubt I have enough years left to become an adult!)
    I enjoy romances that feature heroines of all ages from 18 in Sarina Bowen’s The Year We Fell Down to the two heroines at late sixties and 73 in Mrs. Martin’s Incomparable Adventure by Courtney Milan.

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  6. I have this theory that we all get stuck at a certain age and personal style. Sometimes it’s when we came of age, like my friend who loves and still wears 1970s styles which I regard as eyeburning, but she gets away with it. Sometimes it’s when we get to a certain point in our lives when we say hey, I’m finally me! and we find or make a style we like because we like it; my jeans and sweaters are pure 1980s. One or two poor souls I know go on doing things the way their strict parents told them to, even though the parents are long gone, and I wonder if that’s what they really like or some part of them is afraid of being scolded from the afterlife.
    But it’s a new world in many ways; I look around at my younger neighbors and wonder why they are satisfied with just renting their lives instead of owning them. Furniture, a pet, a relationship, a job – they seem to think of them as all equally temporary. For all its convenience, I wouldn’t want to live that way.
    I like all sorts of heroines, of any age or era, as long as they know who they are, or are in the process of finding out.

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  7. I have this theory that we all get stuck at a certain age and personal style. Sometimes it’s when we came of age, like my friend who loves and still wears 1970s styles which I regard as eyeburning, but she gets away with it. Sometimes it’s when we get to a certain point in our lives when we say hey, I’m finally me! and we find or make a style we like because we like it; my jeans and sweaters are pure 1980s. One or two poor souls I know go on doing things the way their strict parents told them to, even though the parents are long gone, and I wonder if that’s what they really like or some part of them is afraid of being scolded from the afterlife.
    But it’s a new world in many ways; I look around at my younger neighbors and wonder why they are satisfied with just renting their lives instead of owning them. Furniture, a pet, a relationship, a job – they seem to think of them as all equally temporary. For all its convenience, I wouldn’t want to live that way.
    I like all sorts of heroines, of any age or era, as long as they know who they are, or are in the process of finding out.

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  8. I have this theory that we all get stuck at a certain age and personal style. Sometimes it’s when we came of age, like my friend who loves and still wears 1970s styles which I regard as eyeburning, but she gets away with it. Sometimes it’s when we get to a certain point in our lives when we say hey, I’m finally me! and we find or make a style we like because we like it; my jeans and sweaters are pure 1980s. One or two poor souls I know go on doing things the way their strict parents told them to, even though the parents are long gone, and I wonder if that’s what they really like or some part of them is afraid of being scolded from the afterlife.
    But it’s a new world in many ways; I look around at my younger neighbors and wonder why they are satisfied with just renting their lives instead of owning them. Furniture, a pet, a relationship, a job – they seem to think of them as all equally temporary. For all its convenience, I wouldn’t want to live that way.
    I like all sorts of heroines, of any age or era, as long as they know who they are, or are in the process of finding out.

    Reply
  9. I have this theory that we all get stuck at a certain age and personal style. Sometimes it’s when we came of age, like my friend who loves and still wears 1970s styles which I regard as eyeburning, but she gets away with it. Sometimes it’s when we get to a certain point in our lives when we say hey, I’m finally me! and we find or make a style we like because we like it; my jeans and sweaters are pure 1980s. One or two poor souls I know go on doing things the way their strict parents told them to, even though the parents are long gone, and I wonder if that’s what they really like or some part of them is afraid of being scolded from the afterlife.
    But it’s a new world in many ways; I look around at my younger neighbors and wonder why they are satisfied with just renting their lives instead of owning them. Furniture, a pet, a relationship, a job – they seem to think of them as all equally temporary. For all its convenience, I wouldn’t want to live that way.
    I like all sorts of heroines, of any age or era, as long as they know who they are, or are in the process of finding out.

    Reply
  10. I have this theory that we all get stuck at a certain age and personal style. Sometimes it’s when we came of age, like my friend who loves and still wears 1970s styles which I regard as eyeburning, but she gets away with it. Sometimes it’s when we get to a certain point in our lives when we say hey, I’m finally me! and we find or make a style we like because we like it; my jeans and sweaters are pure 1980s. One or two poor souls I know go on doing things the way their strict parents told them to, even though the parents are long gone, and I wonder if that’s what they really like or some part of them is afraid of being scolded from the afterlife.
    But it’s a new world in many ways; I look around at my younger neighbors and wonder why they are satisfied with just renting their lives instead of owning them. Furniture, a pet, a relationship, a job – they seem to think of them as all equally temporary. For all its convenience, I wouldn’t want to live that way.
    I like all sorts of heroines, of any age or era, as long as they know who they are, or are in the process of finding out.

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  11. I love this post, Christina. I remember watching a documentary called Grey Nomads, and a woman in it was a widow in her 60’s who was travelling around Australia on her own — and I think her children didn’t approve (though I could be wrong — it was a long time ago). She’d met up with a man also doing the same thing, and they fell in love. She talked about how it was exactly the same — that intensity and excitement of love, just as it had been the first time around. It was so inspiring.
    I think in our heads we don’t age as our bodies do, so why not stick with our minds?
    One of my heroines in my new book is 38. I hope people like her.

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  12. I love this post, Christina. I remember watching a documentary called Grey Nomads, and a woman in it was a widow in her 60’s who was travelling around Australia on her own — and I think her children didn’t approve (though I could be wrong — it was a long time ago). She’d met up with a man also doing the same thing, and they fell in love. She talked about how it was exactly the same — that intensity and excitement of love, just as it had been the first time around. It was so inspiring.
    I think in our heads we don’t age as our bodies do, so why not stick with our minds?
    One of my heroines in my new book is 38. I hope people like her.

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  13. I love this post, Christina. I remember watching a documentary called Grey Nomads, and a woman in it was a widow in her 60’s who was travelling around Australia on her own — and I think her children didn’t approve (though I could be wrong — it was a long time ago). She’d met up with a man also doing the same thing, and they fell in love. She talked about how it was exactly the same — that intensity and excitement of love, just as it had been the first time around. It was so inspiring.
    I think in our heads we don’t age as our bodies do, so why not stick with our minds?
    One of my heroines in my new book is 38. I hope people like her.

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  14. I love this post, Christina. I remember watching a documentary called Grey Nomads, and a woman in it was a widow in her 60’s who was travelling around Australia on her own — and I think her children didn’t approve (though I could be wrong — it was a long time ago). She’d met up with a man also doing the same thing, and they fell in love. She talked about how it was exactly the same — that intensity and excitement of love, just as it had been the first time around. It was so inspiring.
    I think in our heads we don’t age as our bodies do, so why not stick with our minds?
    One of my heroines in my new book is 38. I hope people like her.

    Reply
  15. I love this post, Christina. I remember watching a documentary called Grey Nomads, and a woman in it was a widow in her 60’s who was travelling around Australia on her own — and I think her children didn’t approve (though I could be wrong — it was a long time ago). She’d met up with a man also doing the same thing, and they fell in love. She talked about how it was exactly the same — that intensity and excitement of love, just as it had been the first time around. It was so inspiring.
    I think in our heads we don’t age as our bodies do, so why not stick with our minds?
    One of my heroines in my new book is 38. I hope people like her.

    Reply
  16. Very interesting post and comments.
    I do agree, it should be a personal choice what you want to wear and how you act (as long as it doesn’t harm somebody else – more on that below)
    And yes, the age of a heroine isn’t what makes a book good or bad in my opinion.
    But I can sort of understand the other opinion as well. Broadly put:
    Clothes and behaviour are after all methods to define/distinguish your group with regards to other groups. So if kids don’t like it when their parents wear or act the same as they do, I can sympathize. It’s a bit like cultural appropriation: What seems fine to one person may already look like disrespect to another.
    Societal norms as to what “acting your age” means, don’t make any sense to me. But personal aggravation with somebody’s choices, this I can perhaps understand.
    It’s a fine line somehow, no wonder that lots of philosophy deals with the question of personal freedom and where that ends.

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  17. Very interesting post and comments.
    I do agree, it should be a personal choice what you want to wear and how you act (as long as it doesn’t harm somebody else – more on that below)
    And yes, the age of a heroine isn’t what makes a book good or bad in my opinion.
    But I can sort of understand the other opinion as well. Broadly put:
    Clothes and behaviour are after all methods to define/distinguish your group with regards to other groups. So if kids don’t like it when their parents wear or act the same as they do, I can sympathize. It’s a bit like cultural appropriation: What seems fine to one person may already look like disrespect to another.
    Societal norms as to what “acting your age” means, don’t make any sense to me. But personal aggravation with somebody’s choices, this I can perhaps understand.
    It’s a fine line somehow, no wonder that lots of philosophy deals with the question of personal freedom and where that ends.

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  18. Very interesting post and comments.
    I do agree, it should be a personal choice what you want to wear and how you act (as long as it doesn’t harm somebody else – more on that below)
    And yes, the age of a heroine isn’t what makes a book good or bad in my opinion.
    But I can sort of understand the other opinion as well. Broadly put:
    Clothes and behaviour are after all methods to define/distinguish your group with regards to other groups. So if kids don’t like it when their parents wear or act the same as they do, I can sympathize. It’s a bit like cultural appropriation: What seems fine to one person may already look like disrespect to another.
    Societal norms as to what “acting your age” means, don’t make any sense to me. But personal aggravation with somebody’s choices, this I can perhaps understand.
    It’s a fine line somehow, no wonder that lots of philosophy deals with the question of personal freedom and where that ends.

    Reply
  19. Very interesting post and comments.
    I do agree, it should be a personal choice what you want to wear and how you act (as long as it doesn’t harm somebody else – more on that below)
    And yes, the age of a heroine isn’t what makes a book good or bad in my opinion.
    But I can sort of understand the other opinion as well. Broadly put:
    Clothes and behaviour are after all methods to define/distinguish your group with regards to other groups. So if kids don’t like it when their parents wear or act the same as they do, I can sympathize. It’s a bit like cultural appropriation: What seems fine to one person may already look like disrespect to another.
    Societal norms as to what “acting your age” means, don’t make any sense to me. But personal aggravation with somebody’s choices, this I can perhaps understand.
    It’s a fine line somehow, no wonder that lots of philosophy deals with the question of personal freedom and where that ends.

    Reply
  20. Very interesting post and comments.
    I do agree, it should be a personal choice what you want to wear and how you act (as long as it doesn’t harm somebody else – more on that below)
    And yes, the age of a heroine isn’t what makes a book good or bad in my opinion.
    But I can sort of understand the other opinion as well. Broadly put:
    Clothes and behaviour are after all methods to define/distinguish your group with regards to other groups. So if kids don’t like it when their parents wear or act the same as they do, I can sympathize. It’s a bit like cultural appropriation: What seems fine to one person may already look like disrespect to another.
    Societal norms as to what “acting your age” means, don’t make any sense to me. But personal aggravation with somebody’s choices, this I can perhaps understand.
    It’s a fine line somehow, no wonder that lots of philosophy deals with the question of personal freedom and where that ends.

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  21. Christina, you’re not really discussing old. You’re talking today’s extended middle age where, if you’re lucky you get to find out and be who you really are. Lots of good stories to be written about those years! I had that up to 79, with lots more adventures and experiences than I’d had in my more timid youth.
    Then I had a year of physical transition along with family challenges that made me gradually realize NOW I’m old. Mentally, yes, I’m younger, but I’m living in my brand of old age. And I’m content and happy with it. I look for what I can do, and if I feel like it, I do it. If I don’t, I turn on my iPad and read a book. As long as I feel that way, I’m good to stay, partly because I had that long, bang-up middle age. Life is (still) good.

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  22. Christina, you’re not really discussing old. You’re talking today’s extended middle age where, if you’re lucky you get to find out and be who you really are. Lots of good stories to be written about those years! I had that up to 79, with lots more adventures and experiences than I’d had in my more timid youth.
    Then I had a year of physical transition along with family challenges that made me gradually realize NOW I’m old. Mentally, yes, I’m younger, but I’m living in my brand of old age. And I’m content and happy with it. I look for what I can do, and if I feel like it, I do it. If I don’t, I turn on my iPad and read a book. As long as I feel that way, I’m good to stay, partly because I had that long, bang-up middle age. Life is (still) good.

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  23. Christina, you’re not really discussing old. You’re talking today’s extended middle age where, if you’re lucky you get to find out and be who you really are. Lots of good stories to be written about those years! I had that up to 79, with lots more adventures and experiences than I’d had in my more timid youth.
    Then I had a year of physical transition along with family challenges that made me gradually realize NOW I’m old. Mentally, yes, I’m younger, but I’m living in my brand of old age. And I’m content and happy with it. I look for what I can do, and if I feel like it, I do it. If I don’t, I turn on my iPad and read a book. As long as I feel that way, I’m good to stay, partly because I had that long, bang-up middle age. Life is (still) good.

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  24. Christina, you’re not really discussing old. You’re talking today’s extended middle age where, if you’re lucky you get to find out and be who you really are. Lots of good stories to be written about those years! I had that up to 79, with lots more adventures and experiences than I’d had in my more timid youth.
    Then I had a year of physical transition along with family challenges that made me gradually realize NOW I’m old. Mentally, yes, I’m younger, but I’m living in my brand of old age. And I’m content and happy with it. I look for what I can do, and if I feel like it, I do it. If I don’t, I turn on my iPad and read a book. As long as I feel that way, I’m good to stay, partly because I had that long, bang-up middle age. Life is (still) good.

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  25. Christina, you’re not really discussing old. You’re talking today’s extended middle age where, if you’re lucky you get to find out and be who you really are. Lots of good stories to be written about those years! I had that up to 79, with lots more adventures and experiences than I’d had in my more timid youth.
    Then I had a year of physical transition along with family challenges that made me gradually realize NOW I’m old. Mentally, yes, I’m younger, but I’m living in my brand of old age. And I’m content and happy with it. I look for what I can do, and if I feel like it, I do it. If I don’t, I turn on my iPad and read a book. As long as I feel that way, I’m good to stay, partly because I had that long, bang-up middle age. Life is (still) good.

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  26. I’m well on the other side of 60, but I’m still 27 inside 🙂 I wear ripped jeans, my hair is almost at my waist, I keep a pair of leather pants in the closet and wear them in public, much to the chagrin of my daughters. I still love adventure and don’t think I need to be relegated to my chair because of my age. I’m me and I like me and in turn, what I wear or how I cut my hair or how I act or what I do reflects me. Not society’s idea of what ‘me’ should be. 🙂

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  27. I’m well on the other side of 60, but I’m still 27 inside 🙂 I wear ripped jeans, my hair is almost at my waist, I keep a pair of leather pants in the closet and wear them in public, much to the chagrin of my daughters. I still love adventure and don’t think I need to be relegated to my chair because of my age. I’m me and I like me and in turn, what I wear or how I cut my hair or how I act or what I do reflects me. Not society’s idea of what ‘me’ should be. 🙂

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  28. I’m well on the other side of 60, but I’m still 27 inside 🙂 I wear ripped jeans, my hair is almost at my waist, I keep a pair of leather pants in the closet and wear them in public, much to the chagrin of my daughters. I still love adventure and don’t think I need to be relegated to my chair because of my age. I’m me and I like me and in turn, what I wear or how I cut my hair or how I act or what I do reflects me. Not society’s idea of what ‘me’ should be. 🙂

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  29. I’m well on the other side of 60, but I’m still 27 inside 🙂 I wear ripped jeans, my hair is almost at my waist, I keep a pair of leather pants in the closet and wear them in public, much to the chagrin of my daughters. I still love adventure and don’t think I need to be relegated to my chair because of my age. I’m me and I like me and in turn, what I wear or how I cut my hair or how I act or what I do reflects me. Not society’s idea of what ‘me’ should be. 🙂

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  30. I’m well on the other side of 60, but I’m still 27 inside 🙂 I wear ripped jeans, my hair is almost at my waist, I keep a pair of leather pants in the closet and wear them in public, much to the chagrin of my daughters. I still love adventure and don’t think I need to be relegated to my chair because of my age. I’m me and I like me and in turn, what I wear or how I cut my hair or how I act or what I do reflects me. Not society’s idea of what ‘me’ should be. 🙂

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  31. Thank you Kareni, I will! And yes, if I hadn’t become an author I would have still been wondering what I should be when I grow up too. Glad it’s not just me!

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  32. Thank you Kareni, I will! And yes, if I hadn’t become an author I would have still been wondering what I should be when I grow up too. Glad it’s not just me!

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  33. Thank you Kareni, I will! And yes, if I hadn’t become an author I would have still been wondering what I should be when I grow up too. Glad it’s not just me!

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  34. Thank you Kareni, I will! And yes, if I hadn’t become an author I would have still been wondering what I should be when I grow up too. Glad it’s not just me!

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  35. Thank you Kareni, I will! And yes, if I hadn’t become an author I would have still been wondering what I should be when I grow up too. Glad it’s not just me!

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  36. That’s all very true, Janice, and I agree about getting stuck in a certain era. If I could get away with it, I’d wear nothing but 1980s clothing – that was my favourite decade fashion-wise. I like your take on heroines too. We all need to figure out who we are, don’t we!

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  37. That’s all very true, Janice, and I agree about getting stuck in a certain era. If I could get away with it, I’d wear nothing but 1980s clothing – that was my favourite decade fashion-wise. I like your take on heroines too. We all need to figure out who we are, don’t we!

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  38. That’s all very true, Janice, and I agree about getting stuck in a certain era. If I could get away with it, I’d wear nothing but 1980s clothing – that was my favourite decade fashion-wise. I like your take on heroines too. We all need to figure out who we are, don’t we!

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  39. That’s all very true, Janice, and I agree about getting stuck in a certain era. If I could get away with it, I’d wear nothing but 1980s clothing – that was my favourite decade fashion-wise. I like your take on heroines too. We all need to figure out who we are, don’t we!

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  40. That’s all very true, Janice, and I agree about getting stuck in a certain era. If I could get away with it, I’d wear nothing but 1980s clothing – that was my favourite decade fashion-wise. I like your take on heroines too. We all need to figure out who we are, don’t we!

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  41. Thank you, Anne, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! That woman and her story sounds awesome and I’m really happy for her that she stuck to her guns and did what she wanted to do. As for your heroine – as I was lucky enough to read an ARC I know she’s wonderful!

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  42. Thank you, Anne, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! That woman and her story sounds awesome and I’m really happy for her that she stuck to her guns and did what she wanted to do. As for your heroine – as I was lucky enough to read an ARC I know she’s wonderful!

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  43. Thank you, Anne, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! That woman and her story sounds awesome and I’m really happy for her that she stuck to her guns and did what she wanted to do. As for your heroine – as I was lucky enough to read an ARC I know she’s wonderful!

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  44. Thank you, Anne, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! That woman and her story sounds awesome and I’m really happy for her that she stuck to her guns and did what she wanted to do. As for your heroine – as I was lucky enough to read an ARC I know she’s wonderful!

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  45. Thank you, Anne, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! That woman and her story sounds awesome and I’m really happy for her that she stuck to her guns and did what she wanted to do. As for your heroine – as I was lucky enough to read an ARC I know she’s wonderful!

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  46. That’s so true, Katja, and personally I would never dress to offend anyone on purpose. Definitely not if it’s in some sort of official role and somewhere it’s necessary to adhere to certain rules. But in my free time I want to choose. It is a fine line, you’re right!

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  47. That’s so true, Katja, and personally I would never dress to offend anyone on purpose. Definitely not if it’s in some sort of official role and somewhere it’s necessary to adhere to certain rules. But in my free time I want to choose. It is a fine line, you’re right!

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  48. That’s so true, Katja, and personally I would never dress to offend anyone on purpose. Definitely not if it’s in some sort of official role and somewhere it’s necessary to adhere to certain rules. But in my free time I want to choose. It is a fine line, you’re right!

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  49. That’s so true, Katja, and personally I would never dress to offend anyone on purpose. Definitely not if it’s in some sort of official role and somewhere it’s necessary to adhere to certain rules. But in my free time I want to choose. It is a fine line, you’re right!

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  50. That’s so true, Katja, and personally I would never dress to offend anyone on purpose. Definitely not if it’s in some sort of official role and somewhere it’s necessary to adhere to certain rules. But in my free time I want to choose. It is a fine line, you’re right!

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  51. I’m so glad your life is good Mary M! And I love thinking of it as ‘extended middle age’ – I really do think we are lucky now because when I was a child, someone aged 60 would have been considered old. (Confession – when I was 15 my parents both turned 40 and I thought they were ancient if not at least middle-aged!). It’s great that boundaries are flexible now and I’m also happy that you got to have lots of adventures!

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  52. I’m so glad your life is good Mary M! And I love thinking of it as ‘extended middle age’ – I really do think we are lucky now because when I was a child, someone aged 60 would have been considered old. (Confession – when I was 15 my parents both turned 40 and I thought they were ancient if not at least middle-aged!). It’s great that boundaries are flexible now and I’m also happy that you got to have lots of adventures!

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  53. I’m so glad your life is good Mary M! And I love thinking of it as ‘extended middle age’ – I really do think we are lucky now because when I was a child, someone aged 60 would have been considered old. (Confession – when I was 15 my parents both turned 40 and I thought they were ancient if not at least middle-aged!). It’s great that boundaries are flexible now and I’m also happy that you got to have lots of adventures!

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  54. I’m so glad your life is good Mary M! And I love thinking of it as ‘extended middle age’ – I really do think we are lucky now because when I was a child, someone aged 60 would have been considered old. (Confession – when I was 15 my parents both turned 40 and I thought they were ancient if not at least middle-aged!). It’s great that boundaries are flexible now and I’m also happy that you got to have lots of adventures!

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  55. I’m so glad your life is good Mary M! And I love thinking of it as ‘extended middle age’ – I really do think we are lucky now because when I was a child, someone aged 60 would have been considered old. (Confession – when I was 15 my parents both turned 40 and I thought they were ancient if not at least middle-aged!). It’s great that boundaries are flexible now and I’m also happy that you got to have lots of adventures!

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  56. Excellent Theo, that’s exactly what I think! My hair is also long and I refuse to cut it off. I too will stick to being me and not what other people think I should be – thank you!

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  57. Excellent Theo, that’s exactly what I think! My hair is also long and I refuse to cut it off. I too will stick to being me and not what other people think I should be – thank you!

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  58. Excellent Theo, that’s exactly what I think! My hair is also long and I refuse to cut it off. I too will stick to being me and not what other people think I should be – thank you!

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  59. Excellent Theo, that’s exactly what I think! My hair is also long and I refuse to cut it off. I too will stick to being me and not what other people think I should be – thank you!

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  60. Excellent Theo, that’s exactly what I think! My hair is also long and I refuse to cut it off. I too will stick to being me and not what other people think I should be – thank you!

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  61. My gardening trousers have a number of rips ( vicious brambles!) and I hate having to change clothes just to pop to the supermarket. Perhaps I will just wear them and not bother. If anyone comments I can now refer them to the Word_Wenches, pointing out that it’s the new fashion LOL
    Can you get designer patches to cover the holes in winter? Or as we live in a smart age maybe a smart patch or zip which closes the holes as the temperature drops.
    As to heroines I like all sorts from feisty youngsters to flirty grandmas … Anne’s Lady Bea is a favourite.😊

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  62. My gardening trousers have a number of rips ( vicious brambles!) and I hate having to change clothes just to pop to the supermarket. Perhaps I will just wear them and not bother. If anyone comments I can now refer them to the Word_Wenches, pointing out that it’s the new fashion LOL
    Can you get designer patches to cover the holes in winter? Or as we live in a smart age maybe a smart patch or zip which closes the holes as the temperature drops.
    As to heroines I like all sorts from feisty youngsters to flirty grandmas … Anne’s Lady Bea is a favourite.😊

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  63. My gardening trousers have a number of rips ( vicious brambles!) and I hate having to change clothes just to pop to the supermarket. Perhaps I will just wear them and not bother. If anyone comments I can now refer them to the Word_Wenches, pointing out that it’s the new fashion LOL
    Can you get designer patches to cover the holes in winter? Or as we live in a smart age maybe a smart patch or zip which closes the holes as the temperature drops.
    As to heroines I like all sorts from feisty youngsters to flirty grandmas … Anne’s Lady Bea is a favourite.😊

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  64. My gardening trousers have a number of rips ( vicious brambles!) and I hate having to change clothes just to pop to the supermarket. Perhaps I will just wear them and not bother. If anyone comments I can now refer them to the Word_Wenches, pointing out that it’s the new fashion LOL
    Can you get designer patches to cover the holes in winter? Or as we live in a smart age maybe a smart patch or zip which closes the holes as the temperature drops.
    As to heroines I like all sorts from feisty youngsters to flirty grandmas … Anne’s Lady Bea is a favourite.😊

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  65. My gardening trousers have a number of rips ( vicious brambles!) and I hate having to change clothes just to pop to the supermarket. Perhaps I will just wear them and not bother. If anyone comments I can now refer them to the Word_Wenches, pointing out that it’s the new fashion LOL
    Can you get designer patches to cover the holes in winter? Or as we live in a smart age maybe a smart patch or zip which closes the holes as the temperature drops.
    As to heroines I like all sorts from feisty youngsters to flirty grandmas … Anne’s Lady Bea is a favourite.😊

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  66. Oh I like that – the Wenches as fashion gurus! 😀 But yes, go for it – why not? And for winter there are actually ripped jeans available with a sort of second layer inside (so the patches are on the inside rather than the outside) to keep you warm! Who knew?

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  67. Oh I like that – the Wenches as fashion gurus! 😀 But yes, go for it – why not? And for winter there are actually ripped jeans available with a sort of second layer inside (so the patches are on the inside rather than the outside) to keep you warm! Who knew?

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  68. Oh I like that – the Wenches as fashion gurus! 😀 But yes, go for it – why not? And for winter there are actually ripped jeans available with a sort of second layer inside (so the patches are on the inside rather than the outside) to keep you warm! Who knew?

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  69. Oh I like that – the Wenches as fashion gurus! 😀 But yes, go for it – why not? And for winter there are actually ripped jeans available with a sort of second layer inside (so the patches are on the inside rather than the outside) to keep you warm! Who knew?

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  70. Oh I like that – the Wenches as fashion gurus! 😀 But yes, go for it – why not? And for winter there are actually ripped jeans available with a sort of second layer inside (so the patches are on the inside rather than the outside) to keep you warm! Who knew?

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  71. My mother always said that, inside she was still 19. Although she didn’t dress as if she was still living in the 1940s, she maintained a lively curiosity about life and an adventurous spirit her entire life. I’ve tried to determine what my “inside” age is, and I think it’s my mid-30s. But then, I thought that when I was in my late 30s! I love fashion and I love make up, and because of my job, which requires me to dress up fairly often, I still indulge both. But I must admit that I am seriously considering giving up my beloved red lipsticks due to all those little wrinkles around the lips! Ha! That was my immediate thought when you mentioned Winter Solstice, Christina. Elfrida Phipps is one of my favorite heroines, although I do not share her predilection for bright blue eye shadow. Thanks for a very provocative post, and please don’t cut your marvelous long hair!

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  72. My mother always said that, inside she was still 19. Although she didn’t dress as if she was still living in the 1940s, she maintained a lively curiosity about life and an adventurous spirit her entire life. I’ve tried to determine what my “inside” age is, and I think it’s my mid-30s. But then, I thought that when I was in my late 30s! I love fashion and I love make up, and because of my job, which requires me to dress up fairly often, I still indulge both. But I must admit that I am seriously considering giving up my beloved red lipsticks due to all those little wrinkles around the lips! Ha! That was my immediate thought when you mentioned Winter Solstice, Christina. Elfrida Phipps is one of my favorite heroines, although I do not share her predilection for bright blue eye shadow. Thanks for a very provocative post, and please don’t cut your marvelous long hair!

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  73. My mother always said that, inside she was still 19. Although she didn’t dress as if she was still living in the 1940s, she maintained a lively curiosity about life and an adventurous spirit her entire life. I’ve tried to determine what my “inside” age is, and I think it’s my mid-30s. But then, I thought that when I was in my late 30s! I love fashion and I love make up, and because of my job, which requires me to dress up fairly often, I still indulge both. But I must admit that I am seriously considering giving up my beloved red lipsticks due to all those little wrinkles around the lips! Ha! That was my immediate thought when you mentioned Winter Solstice, Christina. Elfrida Phipps is one of my favorite heroines, although I do not share her predilection for bright blue eye shadow. Thanks for a very provocative post, and please don’t cut your marvelous long hair!

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  74. My mother always said that, inside she was still 19. Although she didn’t dress as if she was still living in the 1940s, she maintained a lively curiosity about life and an adventurous spirit her entire life. I’ve tried to determine what my “inside” age is, and I think it’s my mid-30s. But then, I thought that when I was in my late 30s! I love fashion and I love make up, and because of my job, which requires me to dress up fairly often, I still indulge both. But I must admit that I am seriously considering giving up my beloved red lipsticks due to all those little wrinkles around the lips! Ha! That was my immediate thought when you mentioned Winter Solstice, Christina. Elfrida Phipps is one of my favorite heroines, although I do not share her predilection for bright blue eye shadow. Thanks for a very provocative post, and please don’t cut your marvelous long hair!

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  75. My mother always said that, inside she was still 19. Although she didn’t dress as if she was still living in the 1940s, she maintained a lively curiosity about life and an adventurous spirit her entire life. I’ve tried to determine what my “inside” age is, and I think it’s my mid-30s. But then, I thought that when I was in my late 30s! I love fashion and I love make up, and because of my job, which requires me to dress up fairly often, I still indulge both. But I must admit that I am seriously considering giving up my beloved red lipsticks due to all those little wrinkles around the lips! Ha! That was my immediate thought when you mentioned Winter Solstice, Christina. Elfrida Phipps is one of my favorite heroines, although I do not share her predilection for bright blue eye shadow. Thanks for a very provocative post, and please don’t cut your marvelous long hair!

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  76. I am 93 in about 3 weeks time. And I DO my own thing, with the support of my daughters (I have outlived my son). Inside, I’m 12 (the age I first took responsiblilty for my actions instead of depending upon parental direction — I remember the incident.)
    My mother had a wonderful view of who she thought I was, she loved that ideal very much; sadly she never took time to find out who I really was. Her sisters and my father thought the real me was passible, so I didn’t lack family approval growing up. I’ve never much worried about public approval.
    Except — during the 70s, I pointed out that convention is the oil that keeps society running smoothly, so I am conventional most of the time. I speak out when I disagree with opinions (I try to be polite — as all of us here try to be) but I state my opinion. I look like a senior citizen but NOT like a 90-year old. AND I’d like to keep it that way!

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  77. I am 93 in about 3 weeks time. And I DO my own thing, with the support of my daughters (I have outlived my son). Inside, I’m 12 (the age I first took responsiblilty for my actions instead of depending upon parental direction — I remember the incident.)
    My mother had a wonderful view of who she thought I was, she loved that ideal very much; sadly she never took time to find out who I really was. Her sisters and my father thought the real me was passible, so I didn’t lack family approval growing up. I’ve never much worried about public approval.
    Except — during the 70s, I pointed out that convention is the oil that keeps society running smoothly, so I am conventional most of the time. I speak out when I disagree with opinions (I try to be polite — as all of us here try to be) but I state my opinion. I look like a senior citizen but NOT like a 90-year old. AND I’d like to keep it that way!

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  78. I am 93 in about 3 weeks time. And I DO my own thing, with the support of my daughters (I have outlived my son). Inside, I’m 12 (the age I first took responsiblilty for my actions instead of depending upon parental direction — I remember the incident.)
    My mother had a wonderful view of who she thought I was, she loved that ideal very much; sadly she never took time to find out who I really was. Her sisters and my father thought the real me was passible, so I didn’t lack family approval growing up. I’ve never much worried about public approval.
    Except — during the 70s, I pointed out that convention is the oil that keeps society running smoothly, so I am conventional most of the time. I speak out when I disagree with opinions (I try to be polite — as all of us here try to be) but I state my opinion. I look like a senior citizen but NOT like a 90-year old. AND I’d like to keep it that way!

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  79. I am 93 in about 3 weeks time. And I DO my own thing, with the support of my daughters (I have outlived my son). Inside, I’m 12 (the age I first took responsiblilty for my actions instead of depending upon parental direction — I remember the incident.)
    My mother had a wonderful view of who she thought I was, she loved that ideal very much; sadly she never took time to find out who I really was. Her sisters and my father thought the real me was passible, so I didn’t lack family approval growing up. I’ve never much worried about public approval.
    Except — during the 70s, I pointed out that convention is the oil that keeps society running smoothly, so I am conventional most of the time. I speak out when I disagree with opinions (I try to be polite — as all of us here try to be) but I state my opinion. I look like a senior citizen but NOT like a 90-year old. AND I’d like to keep it that way!

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  80. I am 93 in about 3 weeks time. And I DO my own thing, with the support of my daughters (I have outlived my son). Inside, I’m 12 (the age I first took responsiblilty for my actions instead of depending upon parental direction — I remember the incident.)
    My mother had a wonderful view of who she thought I was, she loved that ideal very much; sadly she never took time to find out who I really was. Her sisters and my father thought the real me was passible, so I didn’t lack family approval growing up. I’ve never much worried about public approval.
    Except — during the 70s, I pointed out that convention is the oil that keeps society running smoothly, so I am conventional most of the time. I speak out when I disagree with opinions (I try to be polite — as all of us here try to be) but I state my opinion. I look like a senior citizen but NOT like a 90-year old. AND I’d like to keep it that way!

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  81. A few years ago I was looking at some pictures that were taken at a family Christmas Eve party I had been to. I spotted someone I didn’t recognize and asked who that was. Yeah, you guessed it – it was me! I would have been embarrassed if I wasn’t too busy laughing. I’m still surprised sometimes when I look in the mirror, because in my minds eye I am much younger.
    I don’t necessarily like all the fashions and fads, but I think that people should be who they want to be, regardless of their age. What is inside is more important than what is on the outside.
    As or heroines – any age is fine with me. Again, it is the inner person that matters.

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  82. A few years ago I was looking at some pictures that were taken at a family Christmas Eve party I had been to. I spotted someone I didn’t recognize and asked who that was. Yeah, you guessed it – it was me! I would have been embarrassed if I wasn’t too busy laughing. I’m still surprised sometimes when I look in the mirror, because in my minds eye I am much younger.
    I don’t necessarily like all the fashions and fads, but I think that people should be who they want to be, regardless of their age. What is inside is more important than what is on the outside.
    As or heroines – any age is fine with me. Again, it is the inner person that matters.

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  83. A few years ago I was looking at some pictures that were taken at a family Christmas Eve party I had been to. I spotted someone I didn’t recognize and asked who that was. Yeah, you guessed it – it was me! I would have been embarrassed if I wasn’t too busy laughing. I’m still surprised sometimes when I look in the mirror, because in my minds eye I am much younger.
    I don’t necessarily like all the fashions and fads, but I think that people should be who they want to be, regardless of their age. What is inside is more important than what is on the outside.
    As or heroines – any age is fine with me. Again, it is the inner person that matters.

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  84. A few years ago I was looking at some pictures that were taken at a family Christmas Eve party I had been to. I spotted someone I didn’t recognize and asked who that was. Yeah, you guessed it – it was me! I would have been embarrassed if I wasn’t too busy laughing. I’m still surprised sometimes when I look in the mirror, because in my minds eye I am much younger.
    I don’t necessarily like all the fashions and fads, but I think that people should be who they want to be, regardless of their age. What is inside is more important than what is on the outside.
    As or heroines – any age is fine with me. Again, it is the inner person that matters.

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  85. A few years ago I was looking at some pictures that were taken at a family Christmas Eve party I had been to. I spotted someone I didn’t recognize and asked who that was. Yeah, you guessed it – it was me! I would have been embarrassed if I wasn’t too busy laughing. I’m still surprised sometimes when I look in the mirror, because in my minds eye I am much younger.
    I don’t necessarily like all the fashions and fads, but I think that people should be who they want to be, regardless of their age. What is inside is more important than what is on the outside.
    As or heroines – any age is fine with me. Again, it is the inner person that matters.

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  86. Wonderful blog, Christina, and I totally agree. I haven’t tipped over into some “older” behavior mode, and I hope I never do. And it’s great to read everyone’s comments – although we span the decades here, we all seem to feel much younger in age than our numbers say! Maybe reading romance helps. 😉
    I was in a gift shop the other day looking for something for my granddaughter, who’s six (everyone in there was in masks and distancing, yay). A salesperson came over to help me find it. She said, I know you’re wearing a mask and all, but you do NOT look old enough to be anyone’s grandmother! LOL! That felt great. Sometimes you just need to hear it. 🙂

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  87. Wonderful blog, Christina, and I totally agree. I haven’t tipped over into some “older” behavior mode, and I hope I never do. And it’s great to read everyone’s comments – although we span the decades here, we all seem to feel much younger in age than our numbers say! Maybe reading romance helps. 😉
    I was in a gift shop the other day looking for something for my granddaughter, who’s six (everyone in there was in masks and distancing, yay). A salesperson came over to help me find it. She said, I know you’re wearing a mask and all, but you do NOT look old enough to be anyone’s grandmother! LOL! That felt great. Sometimes you just need to hear it. 🙂

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  88. Wonderful blog, Christina, and I totally agree. I haven’t tipped over into some “older” behavior mode, and I hope I never do. And it’s great to read everyone’s comments – although we span the decades here, we all seem to feel much younger in age than our numbers say! Maybe reading romance helps. 😉
    I was in a gift shop the other day looking for something for my granddaughter, who’s six (everyone in there was in masks and distancing, yay). A salesperson came over to help me find it. She said, I know you’re wearing a mask and all, but you do NOT look old enough to be anyone’s grandmother! LOL! That felt great. Sometimes you just need to hear it. 🙂

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  89. Wonderful blog, Christina, and I totally agree. I haven’t tipped over into some “older” behavior mode, and I hope I never do. And it’s great to read everyone’s comments – although we span the decades here, we all seem to feel much younger in age than our numbers say! Maybe reading romance helps. 😉
    I was in a gift shop the other day looking for something for my granddaughter, who’s six (everyone in there was in masks and distancing, yay). A salesperson came over to help me find it. She said, I know you’re wearing a mask and all, but you do NOT look old enough to be anyone’s grandmother! LOL! That felt great. Sometimes you just need to hear it. 🙂

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  90. Wonderful blog, Christina, and I totally agree. I haven’t tipped over into some “older” behavior mode, and I hope I never do. And it’s great to read everyone’s comments – although we span the decades here, we all seem to feel much younger in age than our numbers say! Maybe reading romance helps. 😉
    I was in a gift shop the other day looking for something for my granddaughter, who’s six (everyone in there was in masks and distancing, yay). A salesperson came over to help me find it. She said, I know you’re wearing a mask and all, but you do NOT look old enough to be anyone’s grandmother! LOL! That felt great. Sometimes you just need to hear it. 🙂

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  91. Amen to this! What a fabulous post, Christina! I’m sitting here in my jeans and t-shirt . .. same stuff I felt comfortable in when I was 18. (Psst—I’m not 18 anymore, but that fact hasn’t sunk in, and never will.)
    I wake up every morning curious and eager to experience the world and learn new things. That’s far more important than any numeral.

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  92. Amen to this! What a fabulous post, Christina! I’m sitting here in my jeans and t-shirt . .. same stuff I felt comfortable in when I was 18. (Psst—I’m not 18 anymore, but that fact hasn’t sunk in, and never will.)
    I wake up every morning curious and eager to experience the world and learn new things. That’s far more important than any numeral.

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  93. Amen to this! What a fabulous post, Christina! I’m sitting here in my jeans and t-shirt . .. same stuff I felt comfortable in when I was 18. (Psst—I’m not 18 anymore, but that fact hasn’t sunk in, and never will.)
    I wake up every morning curious and eager to experience the world and learn new things. That’s far more important than any numeral.

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  94. Amen to this! What a fabulous post, Christina! I’m sitting here in my jeans and t-shirt . .. same stuff I felt comfortable in when I was 18. (Psst—I’m not 18 anymore, but that fact hasn’t sunk in, and never will.)
    I wake up every morning curious and eager to experience the world and learn new things. That’s far more important than any numeral.

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  95. Amen to this! What a fabulous post, Christina! I’m sitting here in my jeans and t-shirt . .. same stuff I felt comfortable in when I was 18. (Psst—I’m not 18 anymore, but that fact hasn’t sunk in, and never will.)
    I wake up every morning curious and eager to experience the world and learn new things. That’s far more important than any numeral.

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  96. It isn’t a matter of age. I just don’t understand paying so much for a garment in a state we used to patch or toss. I wouldn’t buy torn jeans for my daughter or granddaughter. I am completely baffled as to why anyone wants to wear a garment even the homeless scorned.
    I have read several novels where the heroines were over 30 and some over 40.Love stories can happen at any age. I just worry about pregnancy in those over 30 who have never had a child.
    It seems to me that people say act your age most often in cases where one feels like tossing a tantrum.

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  97. It isn’t a matter of age. I just don’t understand paying so much for a garment in a state we used to patch or toss. I wouldn’t buy torn jeans for my daughter or granddaughter. I am completely baffled as to why anyone wants to wear a garment even the homeless scorned.
    I have read several novels where the heroines were over 30 and some over 40.Love stories can happen at any age. I just worry about pregnancy in those over 30 who have never had a child.
    It seems to me that people say act your age most often in cases where one feels like tossing a tantrum.

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  98. It isn’t a matter of age. I just don’t understand paying so much for a garment in a state we used to patch or toss. I wouldn’t buy torn jeans for my daughter or granddaughter. I am completely baffled as to why anyone wants to wear a garment even the homeless scorned.
    I have read several novels where the heroines were over 30 and some over 40.Love stories can happen at any age. I just worry about pregnancy in those over 30 who have never had a child.
    It seems to me that people say act your age most often in cases where one feels like tossing a tantrum.

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  99. It isn’t a matter of age. I just don’t understand paying so much for a garment in a state we used to patch or toss. I wouldn’t buy torn jeans for my daughter or granddaughter. I am completely baffled as to why anyone wants to wear a garment even the homeless scorned.
    I have read several novels where the heroines were over 30 and some over 40.Love stories can happen at any age. I just worry about pregnancy in those over 30 who have never had a child.
    It seems to me that people say act your age most often in cases where one feels like tossing a tantrum.

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  100. It isn’t a matter of age. I just don’t understand paying so much for a garment in a state we used to patch or toss. I wouldn’t buy torn jeans for my daughter or granddaughter. I am completely baffled as to why anyone wants to wear a garment even the homeless scorned.
    I have read several novels where the heroines were over 30 and some over 40.Love stories can happen at any age. I just worry about pregnancy in those over 30 who have never had a child.
    It seems to me that people say act your age most often in cases where one feels like tossing a tantrum.

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  101. I always thought of “Act your age” as an injunction to behave politely, as when telling a teenager not to throw a temper tantrum if she doesn’t get her way. While I might consider someone’s fashion choice or hairstyle unattractive, I wouldn’t dream of criticizing it. It’s her choice, and to criticize it would be rude. And then I wouldn’t be acting my age. 🙂

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  102. I always thought of “Act your age” as an injunction to behave politely, as when telling a teenager not to throw a temper tantrum if she doesn’t get her way. While I might consider someone’s fashion choice or hairstyle unattractive, I wouldn’t dream of criticizing it. It’s her choice, and to criticize it would be rude. And then I wouldn’t be acting my age. 🙂

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  103. I always thought of “Act your age” as an injunction to behave politely, as when telling a teenager not to throw a temper tantrum if she doesn’t get her way. While I might consider someone’s fashion choice or hairstyle unattractive, I wouldn’t dream of criticizing it. It’s her choice, and to criticize it would be rude. And then I wouldn’t be acting my age. 🙂

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  104. I always thought of “Act your age” as an injunction to behave politely, as when telling a teenager not to throw a temper tantrum if she doesn’t get her way. While I might consider someone’s fashion choice or hairstyle unattractive, I wouldn’t dream of criticizing it. It’s her choice, and to criticize it would be rude. And then I wouldn’t be acting my age. 🙂

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  105. I always thought of “Act your age” as an injunction to behave politely, as when telling a teenager not to throw a temper tantrum if she doesn’t get her way. While I might consider someone’s fashion choice or hairstyle unattractive, I wouldn’t dream of criticizing it. It’s her choice, and to criticize it would be rude. And then I wouldn’t be acting my age. 🙂

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  106. Thank you Constance! Oh yes, that blue eye shadow – I remember experimenting with that myself many years ago but as I have green eyes it never worked. Just as well! I too love Elfrida, great character. It’s difficult to establish our inner age, isn’t it but fun to try!

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  107. Thank you Constance! Oh yes, that blue eye shadow – I remember experimenting with that myself many years ago but as I have green eyes it never worked. Just as well! I too love Elfrida, great character. It’s difficult to establish our inner age, isn’t it but fun to try!

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  108. Thank you Constance! Oh yes, that blue eye shadow – I remember experimenting with that myself many years ago but as I have green eyes it never worked. Just as well! I too love Elfrida, great character. It’s difficult to establish our inner age, isn’t it but fun to try!

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  109. Thank you Constance! Oh yes, that blue eye shadow – I remember experimenting with that myself many years ago but as I have green eyes it never worked. Just as well! I too love Elfrida, great character. It’s difficult to establish our inner age, isn’t it but fun to try!

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  110. Thank you Constance! Oh yes, that blue eye shadow – I remember experimenting with that myself many years ago but as I have green eyes it never worked. Just as well! I too love Elfrida, great character. It’s difficult to establish our inner age, isn’t it but fun to try!

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  111. I love reading about heroines of all ages. I can see myself in any of them. I’ve been enjoying how Mary Balogh has been filling in the lives & loves of her older family members in the Westcott series.
    I’m 59 but feel about 29 inside (other my creaky joints from autoimmune joint issues). Everyone seems to think I am 10 years or so younger. I got “carded” at the Senior center just last week. She said “you do need to be 50 to participate”
    I have long hair too; down to my tailbone. While I wouldn’t dream of buying pre-torn jeans, I wear those babies until they are threadbare! Just like when I was 16, if the rips get too big in the knees, well then I have a new pair of cutoffs for gardening.
    My mother (83) occasionally grouses about our family aesthetic; jeans T-shirts and plaid flannel, but I’ve been dressing like this since before Seattle Grunge was an thing. I can also enjoy dressing in gowns or fairy garb for our various renaissance and faerie faires.

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  112. I love reading about heroines of all ages. I can see myself in any of them. I’ve been enjoying how Mary Balogh has been filling in the lives & loves of her older family members in the Westcott series.
    I’m 59 but feel about 29 inside (other my creaky joints from autoimmune joint issues). Everyone seems to think I am 10 years or so younger. I got “carded” at the Senior center just last week. She said “you do need to be 50 to participate”
    I have long hair too; down to my tailbone. While I wouldn’t dream of buying pre-torn jeans, I wear those babies until they are threadbare! Just like when I was 16, if the rips get too big in the knees, well then I have a new pair of cutoffs for gardening.
    My mother (83) occasionally grouses about our family aesthetic; jeans T-shirts and plaid flannel, but I’ve been dressing like this since before Seattle Grunge was an thing. I can also enjoy dressing in gowns or fairy garb for our various renaissance and faerie faires.

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  113. I love reading about heroines of all ages. I can see myself in any of them. I’ve been enjoying how Mary Balogh has been filling in the lives & loves of her older family members in the Westcott series.
    I’m 59 but feel about 29 inside (other my creaky joints from autoimmune joint issues). Everyone seems to think I am 10 years or so younger. I got “carded” at the Senior center just last week. She said “you do need to be 50 to participate”
    I have long hair too; down to my tailbone. While I wouldn’t dream of buying pre-torn jeans, I wear those babies until they are threadbare! Just like when I was 16, if the rips get too big in the knees, well then I have a new pair of cutoffs for gardening.
    My mother (83) occasionally grouses about our family aesthetic; jeans T-shirts and plaid flannel, but I’ve been dressing like this since before Seattle Grunge was an thing. I can also enjoy dressing in gowns or fairy garb for our various renaissance and faerie faires.

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  114. I love reading about heroines of all ages. I can see myself in any of them. I’ve been enjoying how Mary Balogh has been filling in the lives & loves of her older family members in the Westcott series.
    I’m 59 but feel about 29 inside (other my creaky joints from autoimmune joint issues). Everyone seems to think I am 10 years or so younger. I got “carded” at the Senior center just last week. She said “you do need to be 50 to participate”
    I have long hair too; down to my tailbone. While I wouldn’t dream of buying pre-torn jeans, I wear those babies until they are threadbare! Just like when I was 16, if the rips get too big in the knees, well then I have a new pair of cutoffs for gardening.
    My mother (83) occasionally grouses about our family aesthetic; jeans T-shirts and plaid flannel, but I’ve been dressing like this since before Seattle Grunge was an thing. I can also enjoy dressing in gowns or fairy garb for our various renaissance and faerie faires.

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  115. I love reading about heroines of all ages. I can see myself in any of them. I’ve been enjoying how Mary Balogh has been filling in the lives & loves of her older family members in the Westcott series.
    I’m 59 but feel about 29 inside (other my creaky joints from autoimmune joint issues). Everyone seems to think I am 10 years or so younger. I got “carded” at the Senior center just last week. She said “you do need to be 50 to participate”
    I have long hair too; down to my tailbone. While I wouldn’t dream of buying pre-torn jeans, I wear those babies until they are threadbare! Just like when I was 16, if the rips get too big in the knees, well then I have a new pair of cutoffs for gardening.
    My mother (83) occasionally grouses about our family aesthetic; jeans T-shirts and plaid flannel, but I’ve been dressing like this since before Seattle Grunge was an thing. I can also enjoy dressing in gowns or fairy garb for our various renaissance and faerie faires.

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  116. How marvellous Sue – I’m so glad you’re doing your own thing! And it’s quite liberating to state an opinion. I do it more often these days although I used to be too shy. As you say though, as long as one is being polite about it, it’s fine! You must tell us when your birthday is so we can help you celebrate!

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  117. How marvellous Sue – I’m so glad you’re doing your own thing! And it’s quite liberating to state an opinion. I do it more often these days although I used to be too shy. As you say though, as long as one is being polite about it, it’s fine! You must tell us when your birthday is so we can help you celebrate!

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  118. How marvellous Sue – I’m so glad you’re doing your own thing! And it’s quite liberating to state an opinion. I do it more often these days although I used to be too shy. As you say though, as long as one is being polite about it, it’s fine! You must tell us when your birthday is so we can help you celebrate!

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  119. How marvellous Sue – I’m so glad you’re doing your own thing! And it’s quite liberating to state an opinion. I do it more often these days although I used to be too shy. As you say though, as long as one is being polite about it, it’s fine! You must tell us when your birthday is so we can help you celebrate!

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  120. How marvellous Sue – I’m so glad you’re doing your own thing! And it’s quite liberating to state an opinion. I do it more often these days although I used to be too shy. As you say though, as long as one is being polite about it, it’s fine! You must tell us when your birthday is so we can help you celebrate!

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  121. How funny Mary, I’m glad you are laughing about it! It’s exactly the sort of thing I would do too. You’re right though, it’s definitely the inner person who is more important. As for fashions, there is always so much choice we can just pick out the things that suit our particular style.

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  122. How funny Mary, I’m glad you are laughing about it! It’s exactly the sort of thing I would do too. You’re right though, it’s definitely the inner person who is more important. As for fashions, there is always so much choice we can just pick out the things that suit our particular style.

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  123. How funny Mary, I’m glad you are laughing about it! It’s exactly the sort of thing I would do too. You’re right though, it’s definitely the inner person who is more important. As for fashions, there is always so much choice we can just pick out the things that suit our particular style.

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  124. How funny Mary, I’m glad you are laughing about it! It’s exactly the sort of thing I would do too. You’re right though, it’s definitely the inner person who is more important. As for fashions, there is always so much choice we can just pick out the things that suit our particular style.

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  125. How funny Mary, I’m glad you are laughing about it! It’s exactly the sort of thing I would do too. You’re right though, it’s definitely the inner person who is more important. As for fashions, there is always so much choice we can just pick out the things that suit our particular style.

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  126. How lovely! Yes, we definitely do need to hear other people tell us sometimes as it’s easy to doubt oneself. I love your theory that it’s reading romance that is keeping us all young – excellent!

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  127. How lovely! Yes, we definitely do need to hear other people tell us sometimes as it’s easy to doubt oneself. I love your theory that it’s reading romance that is keeping us all young – excellent!

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  128. How lovely! Yes, we definitely do need to hear other people tell us sometimes as it’s easy to doubt oneself. I love your theory that it’s reading romance that is keeping us all young – excellent!

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  129. How lovely! Yes, we definitely do need to hear other people tell us sometimes as it’s easy to doubt oneself. I love your theory that it’s reading romance that is keeping us all young – excellent!

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  130. How lovely! Yes, we definitely do need to hear other people tell us sometimes as it’s easy to doubt oneself. I love your theory that it’s reading romance that is keeping us all young – excellent!

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  131. Thank you Andrea! Yes, that is exactly the right attitude as far as I’m concerned. There’s always something new and exciting to experience!

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  132. Thank you Andrea! Yes, that is exactly the right attitude as far as I’m concerned. There’s always something new and exciting to experience!

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  133. Thank you Andrea! Yes, that is exactly the right attitude as far as I’m concerned. There’s always something new and exciting to experience!

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  134. Thank you Andrea! Yes, that is exactly the right attitude as far as I’m concerned. There’s always something new and exciting to experience!

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  135. Thank you Andrea! Yes, that is exactly the right attitude as far as I’m concerned. There’s always something new and exciting to experience!

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  136. It is kind of baffling really, isn’t it! But that’s fashion for you – most of it doesn’t make any sense. And for some reason the ripped jeans are actually really comfortable to wear, at least mine are.
    Good point about the pregnancies – I know people who have had several babies in their 40s and were fine, but there is a lot more risk attached of course. Still, in fiction we as authors can make sure everything goes smoothly!

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  137. It is kind of baffling really, isn’t it! But that’s fashion for you – most of it doesn’t make any sense. And for some reason the ripped jeans are actually really comfortable to wear, at least mine are.
    Good point about the pregnancies – I know people who have had several babies in their 40s and were fine, but there is a lot more risk attached of course. Still, in fiction we as authors can make sure everything goes smoothly!

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  138. It is kind of baffling really, isn’t it! But that’s fashion for you – most of it doesn’t make any sense. And for some reason the ripped jeans are actually really comfortable to wear, at least mine are.
    Good point about the pregnancies – I know people who have had several babies in their 40s and were fine, but there is a lot more risk attached of course. Still, in fiction we as authors can make sure everything goes smoothly!

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  139. It is kind of baffling really, isn’t it! But that’s fashion for you – most of it doesn’t make any sense. And for some reason the ripped jeans are actually really comfortable to wear, at least mine are.
    Good point about the pregnancies – I know people who have had several babies in their 40s and were fine, but there is a lot more risk attached of course. Still, in fiction we as authors can make sure everything goes smoothly!

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  140. It is kind of baffling really, isn’t it! But that’s fashion for you – most of it doesn’t make any sense. And for some reason the ripped jeans are actually really comfortable to wear, at least mine are.
    Good point about the pregnancies – I know people who have had several babies in their 40s and were fine, but there is a lot more risk attached of course. Still, in fiction we as authors can make sure everything goes smoothly!

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  141. That’s true, Lil, and temper tantrums at any age are not nice! Some people seem to have them no matter how old they get though. Good point about not critisizing others – I would never be that rude either.

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  142. That’s true, Lil, and temper tantrums at any age are not nice! Some people seem to have them no matter how old they get though. Good point about not critisizing others – I would never be that rude either.

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  143. That’s true, Lil, and temper tantrums at any age are not nice! Some people seem to have them no matter how old they get though. Good point about not critisizing others – I would never be that rude either.

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  144. That’s true, Lil, and temper tantrums at any age are not nice! Some people seem to have them no matter how old they get though. Good point about not critisizing others – I would never be that rude either.

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  145. That’s true, Lil, and temper tantrums at any age are not nice! Some people seem to have them no matter how old they get though. Good point about not critisizing others – I would never be that rude either.

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  146. How wonderful to get carded! You definitely don’t look your age then. I love the sound of your hair, mine never quite gets that far (it’s too curly). And good philosophy regarding the jeans – cutoffs are always useful. Fairy garb? Wow, we need photos!

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  147. How wonderful to get carded! You definitely don’t look your age then. I love the sound of your hair, mine never quite gets that far (it’s too curly). And good philosophy regarding the jeans – cutoffs are always useful. Fairy garb? Wow, we need photos!

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  148. How wonderful to get carded! You definitely don’t look your age then. I love the sound of your hair, mine never quite gets that far (it’s too curly). And good philosophy regarding the jeans – cutoffs are always useful. Fairy garb? Wow, we need photos!

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  149. How wonderful to get carded! You definitely don’t look your age then. I love the sound of your hair, mine never quite gets that far (it’s too curly). And good philosophy regarding the jeans – cutoffs are always useful. Fairy garb? Wow, we need photos!

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  150. How wonderful to get carded! You definitely don’t look your age then. I love the sound of your hair, mine never quite gets that far (it’s too curly). And good philosophy regarding the jeans – cutoffs are always useful. Fairy garb? Wow, we need photos!

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  151. Hi Christina, I agree with you completely. Be your divine self in every sense of the word. Be fully who you are that makes you happy.
    I enjoy reading about older romances. It’s right and wonderful to promote this.
    Ageism is one of the areas not being addressed to the point that older people have a hard time finding work. Since the virus began, many are continuing working from home. This may open up more jobs for older workers. They won’t have to be in an office of much younger people who think they should not have been hired.

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  152. Hi Christina, I agree with you completely. Be your divine self in every sense of the word. Be fully who you are that makes you happy.
    I enjoy reading about older romances. It’s right and wonderful to promote this.
    Ageism is one of the areas not being addressed to the point that older people have a hard time finding work. Since the virus began, many are continuing working from home. This may open up more jobs for older workers. They won’t have to be in an office of much younger people who think they should not have been hired.

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  153. Hi Christina, I agree with you completely. Be your divine self in every sense of the word. Be fully who you are that makes you happy.
    I enjoy reading about older romances. It’s right and wonderful to promote this.
    Ageism is one of the areas not being addressed to the point that older people have a hard time finding work. Since the virus began, many are continuing working from home. This may open up more jobs for older workers. They won’t have to be in an office of much younger people who think they should not have been hired.

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  154. Hi Christina, I agree with you completely. Be your divine self in every sense of the word. Be fully who you are that makes you happy.
    I enjoy reading about older romances. It’s right and wonderful to promote this.
    Ageism is one of the areas not being addressed to the point that older people have a hard time finding work. Since the virus began, many are continuing working from home. This may open up more jobs for older workers. They won’t have to be in an office of much younger people who think they should not have been hired.

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  155. Hi Christina, I agree with you completely. Be your divine self in every sense of the word. Be fully who you are that makes you happy.
    I enjoy reading about older romances. It’s right and wonderful to promote this.
    Ageism is one of the areas not being addressed to the point that older people have a hard time finding work. Since the virus began, many are continuing working from home. This may open up more jobs for older workers. They won’t have to be in an office of much younger people who think they should not have been hired.

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  156. Sue, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I am being kind, you cannot hear me sing and that is my gift to you. Enjoy your day.

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  157. Sue, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I am being kind, you cannot hear me sing and that is my gift to you. Enjoy your day.

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  158. Sue, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I am being kind, you cannot hear me sing and that is my gift to you. Enjoy your day.

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  159. Sue, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I am being kind, you cannot hear me sing and that is my gift to you. Enjoy your day.

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  160. Sue, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I am being kind, you cannot hear me sing and that is my gift to you. Enjoy your day.

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  161. Thank you! Absolutely right – it’s not like in the past when people were considered old at around 60. Now we can go on working for much longer and enjoying it so no reason why we shouldn’t!

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  162. Thank you! Absolutely right – it’s not like in the past when people were considered old at around 60. Now we can go on working for much longer and enjoying it so no reason why we shouldn’t!

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  163. Thank you! Absolutely right – it’s not like in the past when people were considered old at around 60. Now we can go on working for much longer and enjoying it so no reason why we shouldn’t!

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  164. Thank you! Absolutely right – it’s not like in the past when people were considered old at around 60. Now we can go on working for much longer and enjoying it so no reason why we shouldn’t!

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  165. Thank you! Absolutely right – it’s not like in the past when people were considered old at around 60. Now we can go on working for much longer and enjoying it so no reason why we shouldn’t!

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  166. First – HAPPY BIRTHDAY Christina!!!! I hope you have a wonderful day.
    And I will tell you what I tell nearly everyone – I have panty hose older than you. In reality, I have not seen any panty hose in a very long time. But, you get the idea.
    I also say, God created the Grand Canyon, the Great California Redwood trees, and me. So, I reckon if I acted my age, I would be immobile – stay in one spot – and never make a sound. And I would be much more beautiful than I have ever been.
    I enjoy heroines of nearly every age….but no matter the age….I prefer that they act intelligently. I like character driven stories and I want my characters to be someone I would enjoy in real life.
    I hope that everyone is well and happy and staying safe.

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  167. First – HAPPY BIRTHDAY Christina!!!! I hope you have a wonderful day.
    And I will tell you what I tell nearly everyone – I have panty hose older than you. In reality, I have not seen any panty hose in a very long time. But, you get the idea.
    I also say, God created the Grand Canyon, the Great California Redwood trees, and me. So, I reckon if I acted my age, I would be immobile – stay in one spot – and never make a sound. And I would be much more beautiful than I have ever been.
    I enjoy heroines of nearly every age….but no matter the age….I prefer that they act intelligently. I like character driven stories and I want my characters to be someone I would enjoy in real life.
    I hope that everyone is well and happy and staying safe.

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  168. First – HAPPY BIRTHDAY Christina!!!! I hope you have a wonderful day.
    And I will tell you what I tell nearly everyone – I have panty hose older than you. In reality, I have not seen any panty hose in a very long time. But, you get the idea.
    I also say, God created the Grand Canyon, the Great California Redwood trees, and me. So, I reckon if I acted my age, I would be immobile – stay in one spot – and never make a sound. And I would be much more beautiful than I have ever been.
    I enjoy heroines of nearly every age….but no matter the age….I prefer that they act intelligently. I like character driven stories and I want my characters to be someone I would enjoy in real life.
    I hope that everyone is well and happy and staying safe.

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  169. First – HAPPY BIRTHDAY Christina!!!! I hope you have a wonderful day.
    And I will tell you what I tell nearly everyone – I have panty hose older than you. In reality, I have not seen any panty hose in a very long time. But, you get the idea.
    I also say, God created the Grand Canyon, the Great California Redwood trees, and me. So, I reckon if I acted my age, I would be immobile – stay in one spot – and never make a sound. And I would be much more beautiful than I have ever been.
    I enjoy heroines of nearly every age….but no matter the age….I prefer that they act intelligently. I like character driven stories and I want my characters to be someone I would enjoy in real life.
    I hope that everyone is well and happy and staying safe.

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  170. First – HAPPY BIRTHDAY Christina!!!! I hope you have a wonderful day.
    And I will tell you what I tell nearly everyone – I have panty hose older than you. In reality, I have not seen any panty hose in a very long time. But, you get the idea.
    I also say, God created the Grand Canyon, the Great California Redwood trees, and me. So, I reckon if I acted my age, I would be immobile – stay in one spot – and never make a sound. And I would be much more beautiful than I have ever been.
    I enjoy heroines of nearly every age….but no matter the age….I prefer that they act intelligently. I like character driven stories and I want my characters to be someone I would enjoy in real life.
    I hope that everyone is well and happy and staying safe.

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  171. Thank you very much, Annette! I shall have a low-key celebration but it will definitely involve lots of cake 😀 Good point about the characters – they do need to be someone we’d like to meet in real life and enjoy spending time with!

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  172. Thank you very much, Annette! I shall have a low-key celebration but it will definitely involve lots of cake 😀 Good point about the characters – they do need to be someone we’d like to meet in real life and enjoy spending time with!

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  173. Thank you very much, Annette! I shall have a low-key celebration but it will definitely involve lots of cake 😀 Good point about the characters – they do need to be someone we’d like to meet in real life and enjoy spending time with!

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  174. Thank you very much, Annette! I shall have a low-key celebration but it will definitely involve lots of cake 😀 Good point about the characters – they do need to be someone we’d like to meet in real life and enjoy spending time with!

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  175. Thank you very much, Annette! I shall have a low-key celebration but it will definitely involve lots of cake 😀 Good point about the characters – they do need to be someone we’d like to meet in real life and enjoy spending time with!

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  176. Thank you for the early birthday song. You are kinder than you know: my daughters always sing “Hippo, birdie, two ewes”!

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  177. Thank you for the early birthday song. You are kinder than you know: my daughters always sing “Hippo, birdie, two ewes”!

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  178. Thank you for the early birthday song. You are kinder than you know: my daughters always sing “Hippo, birdie, two ewes”!

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  179. Thank you for the early birthday song. You are kinder than you know: my daughters always sing “Hippo, birdie, two ewes”!

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  180. Thank you for the early birthday song. You are kinder than you know: my daughters always sing “Hippo, birdie, two ewes”!

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  181. Happy Birthday, Christina, and do enjoy all the cake you want! When I have ripped jeans, it’s by accident, and not because I bought them that way. Like Robin, I convert them to gardening cutoffs. However I do enjoy other youthful fashions. I just treated myself to a pair of trendy brightly colored sneakers. And I have a huge collection of t-shirts, some of which are in their own extended middle age.
    I enjoy romances with older main characters. I am looking forward to Anne’s older heroine. Mary Balogh’s are great, and I loved “His Convenient Marchioness”, which had a wonderful 50 year old hero.

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  182. Happy Birthday, Christina, and do enjoy all the cake you want! When I have ripped jeans, it’s by accident, and not because I bought them that way. Like Robin, I convert them to gardening cutoffs. However I do enjoy other youthful fashions. I just treated myself to a pair of trendy brightly colored sneakers. And I have a huge collection of t-shirts, some of which are in their own extended middle age.
    I enjoy romances with older main characters. I am looking forward to Anne’s older heroine. Mary Balogh’s are great, and I loved “His Convenient Marchioness”, which had a wonderful 50 year old hero.

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  183. Happy Birthday, Christina, and do enjoy all the cake you want! When I have ripped jeans, it’s by accident, and not because I bought them that way. Like Robin, I convert them to gardening cutoffs. However I do enjoy other youthful fashions. I just treated myself to a pair of trendy brightly colored sneakers. And I have a huge collection of t-shirts, some of which are in their own extended middle age.
    I enjoy romances with older main characters. I am looking forward to Anne’s older heroine. Mary Balogh’s are great, and I loved “His Convenient Marchioness”, which had a wonderful 50 year old hero.

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  184. Happy Birthday, Christina, and do enjoy all the cake you want! When I have ripped jeans, it’s by accident, and not because I bought them that way. Like Robin, I convert them to gardening cutoffs. However I do enjoy other youthful fashions. I just treated myself to a pair of trendy brightly colored sneakers. And I have a huge collection of t-shirts, some of which are in their own extended middle age.
    I enjoy romances with older main characters. I am looking forward to Anne’s older heroine. Mary Balogh’s are great, and I loved “His Convenient Marchioness”, which had a wonderful 50 year old hero.

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  185. Happy Birthday, Christina, and do enjoy all the cake you want! When I have ripped jeans, it’s by accident, and not because I bought them that way. Like Robin, I convert them to gardening cutoffs. However I do enjoy other youthful fashions. I just treated myself to a pair of trendy brightly colored sneakers. And I have a huge collection of t-shirts, some of which are in their own extended middle age.
    I enjoy romances with older main characters. I am looking forward to Anne’s older heroine. Mary Balogh’s are great, and I loved “His Convenient Marchioness”, which had a wonderful 50 year old hero.

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  186. Though I’ve never liked holes in jeans, I couldn’t care less if someone else is wearing them. I have no business judging someone. I know I disappointed my mother with some of my choices and her “constructive criticism” became more and more unwelcome. She trained me to be the woman I am, good bad or indifferent. She wasn’t prepared for me to choose to work in a nonconventional field.
    As for heroines, I like older women who have experienced life. Whether she is a widow with or without children, a spinster of few means or with and independency, a young woman who has a few seasons under her belt, or a married woman who finally convinces her husband that she is worthy of his whole heart, she is much more interesting to me than a pampered belle right out of the school room, give me a wallflower any day. Whatever age the heroine is, the “Eccentric” is more interesting. If she is intelligent enough to run a house or estate, she should be intelligent enough to have a substantive conversation with her husband beyond what may appear in the gossip column.
    ne of the things I enjoy about WenchWerks are the women are much more than the delicate flowers they may appear to be, and their men are worthy of them.

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  187. Though I’ve never liked holes in jeans, I couldn’t care less if someone else is wearing them. I have no business judging someone. I know I disappointed my mother with some of my choices and her “constructive criticism” became more and more unwelcome. She trained me to be the woman I am, good bad or indifferent. She wasn’t prepared for me to choose to work in a nonconventional field.
    As for heroines, I like older women who have experienced life. Whether she is a widow with or without children, a spinster of few means or with and independency, a young woman who has a few seasons under her belt, or a married woman who finally convinces her husband that she is worthy of his whole heart, she is much more interesting to me than a pampered belle right out of the school room, give me a wallflower any day. Whatever age the heroine is, the “Eccentric” is more interesting. If she is intelligent enough to run a house or estate, she should be intelligent enough to have a substantive conversation with her husband beyond what may appear in the gossip column.
    ne of the things I enjoy about WenchWerks are the women are much more than the delicate flowers they may appear to be, and their men are worthy of them.

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  188. Though I’ve never liked holes in jeans, I couldn’t care less if someone else is wearing them. I have no business judging someone. I know I disappointed my mother with some of my choices and her “constructive criticism” became more and more unwelcome. She trained me to be the woman I am, good bad or indifferent. She wasn’t prepared for me to choose to work in a nonconventional field.
    As for heroines, I like older women who have experienced life. Whether she is a widow with or without children, a spinster of few means or with and independency, a young woman who has a few seasons under her belt, or a married woman who finally convinces her husband that she is worthy of his whole heart, she is much more interesting to me than a pampered belle right out of the school room, give me a wallflower any day. Whatever age the heroine is, the “Eccentric” is more interesting. If she is intelligent enough to run a house or estate, she should be intelligent enough to have a substantive conversation with her husband beyond what may appear in the gossip column.
    ne of the things I enjoy about WenchWerks are the women are much more than the delicate flowers they may appear to be, and their men are worthy of them.

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  189. Though I’ve never liked holes in jeans, I couldn’t care less if someone else is wearing them. I have no business judging someone. I know I disappointed my mother with some of my choices and her “constructive criticism” became more and more unwelcome. She trained me to be the woman I am, good bad or indifferent. She wasn’t prepared for me to choose to work in a nonconventional field.
    As for heroines, I like older women who have experienced life. Whether she is a widow with or without children, a spinster of few means or with and independency, a young woman who has a few seasons under her belt, or a married woman who finally convinces her husband that she is worthy of his whole heart, she is much more interesting to me than a pampered belle right out of the school room, give me a wallflower any day. Whatever age the heroine is, the “Eccentric” is more interesting. If she is intelligent enough to run a house or estate, she should be intelligent enough to have a substantive conversation with her husband beyond what may appear in the gossip column.
    ne of the things I enjoy about WenchWerks are the women are much more than the delicate flowers they may appear to be, and their men are worthy of them.

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  190. Though I’ve never liked holes in jeans, I couldn’t care less if someone else is wearing them. I have no business judging someone. I know I disappointed my mother with some of my choices and her “constructive criticism” became more and more unwelcome. She trained me to be the woman I am, good bad or indifferent. She wasn’t prepared for me to choose to work in a nonconventional field.
    As for heroines, I like older women who have experienced life. Whether she is a widow with or without children, a spinster of few means or with and independency, a young woman who has a few seasons under her belt, or a married woman who finally convinces her husband that she is worthy of his whole heart, she is much more interesting to me than a pampered belle right out of the school room, give me a wallflower any day. Whatever age the heroine is, the “Eccentric” is more interesting. If she is intelligent enough to run a house or estate, she should be intelligent enough to have a substantive conversation with her husband beyond what may appear in the gossip column.
    ne of the things I enjoy about WenchWerks are the women are much more than the delicate flowers they may appear to be, and their men are worthy of them.

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  191. Hurray for you, Christina! I’m with you all the way. I never tell people my age if I can help it – I’ve discovered that people tend to treat you differently if you’re over a certain age – and that is something I’m not willing to put up with!
    I once entered a competition, the second prize of which was a visit by a lady from ‘First Impressions’ one of those colour people. (I’d actually entered it hoping to win the first prize – a visit to Nepal to see tigers!) But the second prize was an eye opener. When various coloured silk scarves were draped round my neck, I could see very clearly that the muted pinks, greens and blues I wore, actually did nothing for me. I was a Winter person. ‘Think ice!’ she said. I was given a swatch of colours I should wear and my life changed.
    I now wear clear bright colours and steer clear of colours that now I know don’t suit me – like peach and apricot. (A pity – I’d always longed to wear apricot silk underwear!)
    I’m very much of the ‘When I grow old I shall wear purple’ school of thought! Inside, I think of myself as approaching the foothills of middle age!
    I enjoyed your blog and reading the cheering way you and other women tackle the subject.

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  192. Hurray for you, Christina! I’m with you all the way. I never tell people my age if I can help it – I’ve discovered that people tend to treat you differently if you’re over a certain age – and that is something I’m not willing to put up with!
    I once entered a competition, the second prize of which was a visit by a lady from ‘First Impressions’ one of those colour people. (I’d actually entered it hoping to win the first prize – a visit to Nepal to see tigers!) But the second prize was an eye opener. When various coloured silk scarves were draped round my neck, I could see very clearly that the muted pinks, greens and blues I wore, actually did nothing for me. I was a Winter person. ‘Think ice!’ she said. I was given a swatch of colours I should wear and my life changed.
    I now wear clear bright colours and steer clear of colours that now I know don’t suit me – like peach and apricot. (A pity – I’d always longed to wear apricot silk underwear!)
    I’m very much of the ‘When I grow old I shall wear purple’ school of thought! Inside, I think of myself as approaching the foothills of middle age!
    I enjoyed your blog and reading the cheering way you and other women tackle the subject.

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  193. Hurray for you, Christina! I’m with you all the way. I never tell people my age if I can help it – I’ve discovered that people tend to treat you differently if you’re over a certain age – and that is something I’m not willing to put up with!
    I once entered a competition, the second prize of which was a visit by a lady from ‘First Impressions’ one of those colour people. (I’d actually entered it hoping to win the first prize – a visit to Nepal to see tigers!) But the second prize was an eye opener. When various coloured silk scarves were draped round my neck, I could see very clearly that the muted pinks, greens and blues I wore, actually did nothing for me. I was a Winter person. ‘Think ice!’ she said. I was given a swatch of colours I should wear and my life changed.
    I now wear clear bright colours and steer clear of colours that now I know don’t suit me – like peach and apricot. (A pity – I’d always longed to wear apricot silk underwear!)
    I’m very much of the ‘When I grow old I shall wear purple’ school of thought! Inside, I think of myself as approaching the foothills of middle age!
    I enjoyed your blog and reading the cheering way you and other women tackle the subject.

    Reply
  194. Hurray for you, Christina! I’m with you all the way. I never tell people my age if I can help it – I’ve discovered that people tend to treat you differently if you’re over a certain age – and that is something I’m not willing to put up with!
    I once entered a competition, the second prize of which was a visit by a lady from ‘First Impressions’ one of those colour people. (I’d actually entered it hoping to win the first prize – a visit to Nepal to see tigers!) But the second prize was an eye opener. When various coloured silk scarves were draped round my neck, I could see very clearly that the muted pinks, greens and blues I wore, actually did nothing for me. I was a Winter person. ‘Think ice!’ she said. I was given a swatch of colours I should wear and my life changed.
    I now wear clear bright colours and steer clear of colours that now I know don’t suit me – like peach and apricot. (A pity – I’d always longed to wear apricot silk underwear!)
    I’m very much of the ‘When I grow old I shall wear purple’ school of thought! Inside, I think of myself as approaching the foothills of middle age!
    I enjoyed your blog and reading the cheering way you and other women tackle the subject.

    Reply
  195. Hurray for you, Christina! I’m with you all the way. I never tell people my age if I can help it – I’ve discovered that people tend to treat you differently if you’re over a certain age – and that is something I’m not willing to put up with!
    I once entered a competition, the second prize of which was a visit by a lady from ‘First Impressions’ one of those colour people. (I’d actually entered it hoping to win the first prize – a visit to Nepal to see tigers!) But the second prize was an eye opener. When various coloured silk scarves were draped round my neck, I could see very clearly that the muted pinks, greens and blues I wore, actually did nothing for me. I was a Winter person. ‘Think ice!’ she said. I was given a swatch of colours I should wear and my life changed.
    I now wear clear bright colours and steer clear of colours that now I know don’t suit me – like peach and apricot. (A pity – I’d always longed to wear apricot silk underwear!)
    I’m very much of the ‘When I grow old I shall wear purple’ school of thought! Inside, I think of myself as approaching the foothills of middle age!
    I enjoyed your blog and reading the cheering way you and other women tackle the subject.

    Reply
  196. Happy birthday Christina and a great post. I’ve never followed fashion. I wear what I like. I grew up a tomboy so style kinda passed me by. I’m not eccentric or anything like that, I just wear what I feel suits me.
    Now for a look at the other side 🙂 My husband became an OAP today and I can tell you he doesn’t and never has acted his age!! He still thinks he’s twenty one. There are a few years between us but you’d never know it. I sometimes think our children kept us young. Even though they are all in their thirties now we are still close and they’ve introduced us to new music and films. We love 70’s and 80’s music but have been surprised at how much modern stuff we like.
    Age is only a number is the truest saying I’ve ever heard.

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  197. Happy birthday Christina and a great post. I’ve never followed fashion. I wear what I like. I grew up a tomboy so style kinda passed me by. I’m not eccentric or anything like that, I just wear what I feel suits me.
    Now for a look at the other side 🙂 My husband became an OAP today and I can tell you he doesn’t and never has acted his age!! He still thinks he’s twenty one. There are a few years between us but you’d never know it. I sometimes think our children kept us young. Even though they are all in their thirties now we are still close and they’ve introduced us to new music and films. We love 70’s and 80’s music but have been surprised at how much modern stuff we like.
    Age is only a number is the truest saying I’ve ever heard.

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  198. Happy birthday Christina and a great post. I’ve never followed fashion. I wear what I like. I grew up a tomboy so style kinda passed me by. I’m not eccentric or anything like that, I just wear what I feel suits me.
    Now for a look at the other side 🙂 My husband became an OAP today and I can tell you he doesn’t and never has acted his age!! He still thinks he’s twenty one. There are a few years between us but you’d never know it. I sometimes think our children kept us young. Even though they are all in their thirties now we are still close and they’ve introduced us to new music and films. We love 70’s and 80’s music but have been surprised at how much modern stuff we like.
    Age is only a number is the truest saying I’ve ever heard.

    Reply
  199. Happy birthday Christina and a great post. I’ve never followed fashion. I wear what I like. I grew up a tomboy so style kinda passed me by. I’m not eccentric or anything like that, I just wear what I feel suits me.
    Now for a look at the other side 🙂 My husband became an OAP today and I can tell you he doesn’t and never has acted his age!! He still thinks he’s twenty one. There are a few years between us but you’d never know it. I sometimes think our children kept us young. Even though they are all in their thirties now we are still close and they’ve introduced us to new music and films. We love 70’s and 80’s music but have been surprised at how much modern stuff we like.
    Age is only a number is the truest saying I’ve ever heard.

    Reply
  200. Happy birthday Christina and a great post. I’ve never followed fashion. I wear what I like. I grew up a tomboy so style kinda passed me by. I’m not eccentric or anything like that, I just wear what I feel suits me.
    Now for a look at the other side 🙂 My husband became an OAP today and I can tell you he doesn’t and never has acted his age!! He still thinks he’s twenty one. There are a few years between us but you’d never know it. I sometimes think our children kept us young. Even though they are all in their thirties now we are still close and they’ve introduced us to new music and films. We love 70’s and 80’s music but have been surprised at how much modern stuff we like.
    Age is only a number is the truest saying I’ve ever heard.

    Reply
  201. Happy Birthday and thanks for a fun post! I like heroines of all ages except really young. It makes me uncomfortable to read of 17 and 18 year old’s out for their first “season”. I never felt my age and agree very much about the extended middle age we enjoy now. I felt I was middle aged till I was 60 and then things caught up with me body wise and I got older fast!!! Am 68 now and starting to get back to normal so often say to that old lady in the mirror “who are you”??? I never dressed flamboyantly so am really enjoying dressing with colour now! Not only does it make me feel good but it looks really good with silver hair and our older skin.
    I have always faced every day with a huge smile and voice my opinion if necessary – never had trouble with that, especially if it involved an animal – so I hope to get my muscles and tan back soon so I can go on all the adventure I have planned!!!

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  202. Happy Birthday and thanks for a fun post! I like heroines of all ages except really young. It makes me uncomfortable to read of 17 and 18 year old’s out for their first “season”. I never felt my age and agree very much about the extended middle age we enjoy now. I felt I was middle aged till I was 60 and then things caught up with me body wise and I got older fast!!! Am 68 now and starting to get back to normal so often say to that old lady in the mirror “who are you”??? I never dressed flamboyantly so am really enjoying dressing with colour now! Not only does it make me feel good but it looks really good with silver hair and our older skin.
    I have always faced every day with a huge smile and voice my opinion if necessary – never had trouble with that, especially if it involved an animal – so I hope to get my muscles and tan back soon so I can go on all the adventure I have planned!!!

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  203. Happy Birthday and thanks for a fun post! I like heroines of all ages except really young. It makes me uncomfortable to read of 17 and 18 year old’s out for their first “season”. I never felt my age and agree very much about the extended middle age we enjoy now. I felt I was middle aged till I was 60 and then things caught up with me body wise and I got older fast!!! Am 68 now and starting to get back to normal so often say to that old lady in the mirror “who are you”??? I never dressed flamboyantly so am really enjoying dressing with colour now! Not only does it make me feel good but it looks really good with silver hair and our older skin.
    I have always faced every day with a huge smile and voice my opinion if necessary – never had trouble with that, especially if it involved an animal – so I hope to get my muscles and tan back soon so I can go on all the adventure I have planned!!!

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  204. Happy Birthday and thanks for a fun post! I like heroines of all ages except really young. It makes me uncomfortable to read of 17 and 18 year old’s out for their first “season”. I never felt my age and agree very much about the extended middle age we enjoy now. I felt I was middle aged till I was 60 and then things caught up with me body wise and I got older fast!!! Am 68 now and starting to get back to normal so often say to that old lady in the mirror “who are you”??? I never dressed flamboyantly so am really enjoying dressing with colour now! Not only does it make me feel good but it looks really good with silver hair and our older skin.
    I have always faced every day with a huge smile and voice my opinion if necessary – never had trouble with that, especially if it involved an animal – so I hope to get my muscles and tan back soon so I can go on all the adventure I have planned!!!

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  205. Happy Birthday and thanks for a fun post! I like heroines of all ages except really young. It makes me uncomfortable to read of 17 and 18 year old’s out for their first “season”. I never felt my age and agree very much about the extended middle age we enjoy now. I felt I was middle aged till I was 60 and then things caught up with me body wise and I got older fast!!! Am 68 now and starting to get back to normal so often say to that old lady in the mirror “who are you”??? I never dressed flamboyantly so am really enjoying dressing with colour now! Not only does it make me feel good but it looks really good with silver hair and our older skin.
    I have always faced every day with a huge smile and voice my opinion if necessary – never had trouble with that, especially if it involved an animal – so I hope to get my muscles and tan back soon so I can go on all the adventure I have planned!!!

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  206. Thank you Karin, I will definitely be eating way too much cake! Love the sound of your colourful sneakers and old t-shirts are the best, they’re so soft!

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  207. Thank you Karin, I will definitely be eating way too much cake! Love the sound of your colourful sneakers and old t-shirts are the best, they’re so soft!

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  208. Thank you Karin, I will definitely be eating way too much cake! Love the sound of your colourful sneakers and old t-shirts are the best, they’re so soft!

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  209. Thank you Karin, I will definitely be eating way too much cake! Love the sound of your colourful sneakers and old t-shirts are the best, they’re so soft!

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  210. Thank you Karin, I will definitely be eating way too much cake! Love the sound of your colourful sneakers and old t-shirts are the best, they’re so soft!

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  211. Thank you Pamela! Yes, ‘constructive criticism’ can be the worst, especially from relatives. Strange! I too like wallflowers and overlooked spinsters who surprise the reader – they’re fab! And thank you for your kind words about the Wench heroines!

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  212. Thank you Pamela! Yes, ‘constructive criticism’ can be the worst, especially from relatives. Strange! I too like wallflowers and overlooked spinsters who surprise the reader – they’re fab! And thank you for your kind words about the Wench heroines!

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  213. Thank you Pamela! Yes, ‘constructive criticism’ can be the worst, especially from relatives. Strange! I too like wallflowers and overlooked spinsters who surprise the reader – they’re fab! And thank you for your kind words about the Wench heroines!

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  214. Thank you Pamela! Yes, ‘constructive criticism’ can be the worst, especially from relatives. Strange! I too like wallflowers and overlooked spinsters who surprise the reader – they’re fab! And thank you for your kind words about the Wench heroines!

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  215. Thank you Pamela! Yes, ‘constructive criticism’ can be the worst, especially from relatives. Strange! I too like wallflowers and overlooked spinsters who surprise the reader – they’re fab! And thank you for your kind words about the Wench heroines!

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  216. Thank you Elizabeth, I’m so glad you enjoyed it and that you agree! I too am a ‘winter’ person in colour and love icy blue and green, as well as bright red and primrose yellow. No apricot for me either. ‘The foothills of middle age’ – what a wonderful expression!

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  217. Thank you Elizabeth, I’m so glad you enjoyed it and that you agree! I too am a ‘winter’ person in colour and love icy blue and green, as well as bright red and primrose yellow. No apricot for me either. ‘The foothills of middle age’ – what a wonderful expression!

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  218. Thank you Elizabeth, I’m so glad you enjoyed it and that you agree! I too am a ‘winter’ person in colour and love icy blue and green, as well as bright red and primrose yellow. No apricot for me either. ‘The foothills of middle age’ – what a wonderful expression!

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  219. Thank you Elizabeth, I’m so glad you enjoyed it and that you agree! I too am a ‘winter’ person in colour and love icy blue and green, as well as bright red and primrose yellow. No apricot for me either. ‘The foothills of middle age’ – what a wonderful expression!

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  220. Thank you Elizabeth, I’m so glad you enjoyed it and that you agree! I too am a ‘winter’ person in colour and love icy blue and green, as well as bright red and primrose yellow. No apricot for me either. ‘The foothills of middle age’ – what a wonderful expression!

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  221. Thank you Teresa! Yes, age is definitely just a number and I intend to disregard it entirely when I celebrate. You’re right about children keeping us young – my two introduce me to all sorts of things as well and it’s great!

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  222. Thank you Teresa! Yes, age is definitely just a number and I intend to disregard it entirely when I celebrate. You’re right about children keeping us young – my two introduce me to all sorts of things as well and it’s great!

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  223. Thank you Teresa! Yes, age is definitely just a number and I intend to disregard it entirely when I celebrate. You’re right about children keeping us young – my two introduce me to all sorts of things as well and it’s great!

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  224. Thank you Teresa! Yes, age is definitely just a number and I intend to disregard it entirely when I celebrate. You’re right about children keeping us young – my two introduce me to all sorts of things as well and it’s great!

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  225. Thank you Teresa! Yes, age is definitely just a number and I intend to disregard it entirely when I celebrate. You’re right about children keeping us young – my two introduce me to all sorts of things as well and it’s great!

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  226. I hope you do too, Janet, that sounds fabulous! And that’s true about the colours that suit us changing as we change – I’d forgotten about that! It can be fun to try different things too – enjoy! Many thanks for the birthday wishes!

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  227. I hope you do too, Janet, that sounds fabulous! And that’s true about the colours that suit us changing as we change – I’d forgotten about that! It can be fun to try different things too – enjoy! Many thanks for the birthday wishes!

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  228. I hope you do too, Janet, that sounds fabulous! And that’s true about the colours that suit us changing as we change – I’d forgotten about that! It can be fun to try different things too – enjoy! Many thanks for the birthday wishes!

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  229. I hope you do too, Janet, that sounds fabulous! And that’s true about the colours that suit us changing as we change – I’d forgotten about that! It can be fun to try different things too – enjoy! Many thanks for the birthday wishes!

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  230. I hope you do too, Janet, that sounds fabulous! And that’s true about the colours that suit us changing as we change – I’d forgotten about that! It can be fun to try different things too – enjoy! Many thanks for the birthday wishes!

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